I love a good “pre frame” objection pattern.
Meaning you know what kind of objection your “target” is going to come up with, and you flip it around so it’s a positive in your favor, before they come up with it.
So when it bubbles up in their mind (as you have already predicted it will) you will have already given it a positive meaning.
My favorite example is when Reagan was about to debate Mondale. Reagan was pretty old, and people were worried he was too old.
Before he even started, Reagan said, “I don’t want age to be an issue. I will not hold my opponents youth and inexperience against him.”
From that point on, whenever somebody thought of age, they immediately thought of experience and wisdom.
You can do this with pretty much anybody (including yourself) when you KNOW there are objections coming up.
So when you’re out going for numbers, or you’re talking to your girl in an existing relationship, before you spring the question (number close, whatever) think about what objections she’ll come up with, flip them around, then pre-frame them BEFORE you pop the question (whatever the question may be).
For example, let’s say you often get an objection of, “I don’t give my number to strangers.”
Flip it around, so giving your number to strangers is a good thing. Put that into some kind of story (since this is a pick up and not a debate) BEFORE you ask for the number.
“You know, this reminds of my friend. She’s really nervous about giving out her contact information, with so many crazy people around today. But something inside her said it was safe to give her number to this guy, and they ended up getting married. Now they’ve got three kids. Crazy, huh? She almost blew him off.”
Often times, when you lay it out like this, and just keep talking to her like normal, she’ll start to wonder about what she might be missing if she DOESN’T give you her number.
So when you casually ask for it a few minutes later, she’ll almost always give it to you.
To learn more about pre-framing language to literally get her eating out of your hand, check this out: