Most of us talk in metaphors quite often, without really knowing it consciously.
For example, how would you describe that initial bit of awkwardness when first talking to a cute girl? Or that feeling of anxiety when going out for a night of number closes?
Many folks have described it as like jumping in a pool of cold water.
It ALWAYS feels like a shock to the system, but you usually get used to it.
The quicker you “get it over with” the sooner you’ll enjoy the “water.”
Is this accurate? More importantly, is this metaphor helpful?
Maybe. But have you ever been to the beach, and decided against going in the water because you didn’t want to experience that “shock”? Maybe you told yourself you were content to sit on the sand, enjoying the sun?
Many guys do the same thing when going out. Hit plenty of bars and clubs, but never approach.
Now, I’m not saying that all you’ve got to do is change your metaphor, and approaching will suddenly become easy. But it might help.
Consider this. When approaching any person, guy or girl, for the first time, there’s going to be a bit of “acclimation.”
Everybody behaves differently. Everybody speaks differently. Everybody’s got a slightly different collection of body language and facial expressions.
Now, is it a good idea to think of this necessary acclimation process as a “shock”?
Is that even accurate?
Think about going on vacation somewhere. A place where they drive on the opposite side of the road.
Of course, the first couple days you’re going to have to get used to it. It won’t feel natural. It might even feel a bit uncomfortable. But it will also be pretty fun.
Have you ever heard of somebody who decided NOT to go on vacation because they DIDN’T want to acclimate themselves to driving on the opposite side of the road?
Probably not. But there’s plenty of people who go to the beach and never go in the water.
Try thinking of talking to girls like going on vacation. The first couple of minutes is like getting to know the lay of the land, the driving and communication system.
Not a shock, like jumping in a pool of cold water, but a simple acclimation system that you can learn as easily as driving on the other side of the road.
And the sooner you learn her system, the sooner you’ll be able to enjoy what she’s got to offer.