When you walk up to a cute girl, intending to start a conversation and get her number, what’s going through your mind?
If you’re like most guys, your thoughts are a jumble of best case and worst case scenarios fighting for supremacy in your mind.
The trouble is that our brains come hard wired to think in terms of “worst case scenario” whenever entering into an unknown situation.
All of our ancestors who happily skipped down unknown trails whistling show tunes got eaten by tigers, since they weren’t always on the lookout for danger. (In which case they weren’t our ancestors since they didn’t live long enough to have kids, but you get the picture).
So if you don’t consciously choose to hold positive thoughts when you approach, you’re going to end up fighting those demons.
What positive thoughts should you think? Make it easy on yourself, and think just one step ahead.
Now, you certainly do think positive thoughts automatically, otherwise you wouldn’t walk over there. But the thoughts you think, should they come true, won’t likely happen for a while. (Until you’re back at her place if you know what I mean.)
Instead, consider choosing thoughts that “lead reality” by only a couple of minutes. When you’re walking over there, force yourself to imagine her smiling at you while you’re talking to her.
While you’re talking to her, force yourself to imagine her eyes lighting up as you ask for the number.
You’ll find these thoughts are easy to hold, since they have a pretty good chance of coming true.
And they work for a couple of reasons. One is that they’ll your unconscious a clear direction to go in. If you walk over there thinking about banging her silly, your unconscious won’t know what to do with that, since you’re in a public place.
The other helpful effect is that by forcing yourself to think of those likely future events, you’ll be crowding out those automatic imaginations of potential failure.
This can have a surprising effect.
And, of course, when you’re talking to her, you’ll want to use some specific language patterns that will get her emotions spinning in just the right direction.
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