One of the interesting things about us humans is our memory.
How utterly crappy it is.
They tell us exactly what to study.
Exactly when the test is going to be.
And if we’re lucky, we get a B.
Plenty of studies have been to show when things happen unexpectedly, we don’t remember squat.
Like a guy will run into a classroom and steal something off the professor’s desk.
Everybody’s description of the guy is all over the place.
Height, weight, clothing color, facial hair, ethnicity, etc.
And here’s a kind of interested but messed up thought.
Who ARE you?
There is the genetic you.
Then there is all the information that has been layered on the genetic you since the day you became self aware.
And nearly ALL of that stuff was unexpected.
Sure, most of it was pretty familiar.
Which creates another interesting idea.
When we are in familiar places, up to HALF of what we “observe” about the world around us is internally generated.
Like a brain cache to save on brain processing power.
Have you ever had the experience of thinking you remembered something a certain way, but then found out you were wrong?
Or you’re about halfway through a book or movie and you realize you’d already read it or saw it before?
That happens to me a lot.
I’ll be watching some corny movie, and even thought I KNOW I’ve seen it before, I forget all the jokes and scenario’s etc.
So watching it again is still enjoyable.
So, now, when you think if your personality, your experiences, and all those memories they are based on, who ARE you?
Normally this is no big deal.
We humans are very much “go-with-the-flow” pack animals.
Down The River
We cruise through life with family friends, ease into relationships, make more people, and keep on jamming forward.
Except when something BAD happens.
Or something we REMEMBER as being bad.
This is when the idea of “instinct-mismatch” pops up.
This shows up in a lot of unexpected places.
Basically, our hard wiring that drives most of our behavior is kind of out of calibration.
Perfect for back then.
Not so much today.
Better Not Mess Up
First, we have a “better safe than sorry” pre-set in our brain.
Second, we have a very flexible hindsight bias.
Three, our social ties are critically important to our survival.
So this three create things like guilt, when hurt others.
And emotional “weakness” when others hurt us.
But here’s the thing.
None of the things, us hurting others or others hurting us, happened anywhere CLOSE to the way we remember things.
Which makes it easy to get rid of them, in your mind.
So they don’t bother you any more.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.