Need To Grow
There is a very necessary transition point in life.
One very few people make.
Jung and others made this observation decades ago.
That most adults are operating from a childhood mindset.
When little kids want something, their only strategy is to get somebody to give it to them.
As we grow up, we shed some of this mindset, but not all.
This is a very, very harsh pill to swallow.
A very emotionally painful realization to accept.
But when you do really make this transition, life is paradoxically much more enjoyable.
The childhood mindset is “I want something, therefore I should get something.”
The adult mindset is “I want something so I need to figure out how to get from somebody.”
And if you are not a criminal the natural next thought is:
“I want something that I need to get from somebody else. Which means THEY need to get something in exchange as well.”
This is a basic economic idea of exchange.
When you were a kid, you understood this with friends.
When you traded whatever kids traded when you were a kid.
Baseball cards, Pokemon cards, chips for cookies, etc.
There is one area where understanding this will create a very, very happy life.
And not understanding this will make life miserable.
What does this mean?
Give Me Love
Suppose you are operating from the childhood mindset on the dating market.
“I want a hot lady, therefore I SHOULD get a hot lady.”
This kind of implies you don’t need to do any work.
That since you DESERVE a hot lady you only need to show up and THEY, whoever they are, are SUPPOSED to “give you” a hot lady.
Kind of a weird way to think.
Now let’s imagine this from the adult mindset.
Your purpose is to find ladies with which you have a mutually beneficial overlapping relationship.
So long as YOU are enjoying the interaction, and SHE is enjoying the interaction, it’s all good.
So long as YOU are working to make sure she enjoys the interaction and SHE is working to make sure you are enjoying the interaction, it’s all good.
But the SECOND she loses interest, or she starts to sit back and expect you to do all the work?
Later days sweetheart.
This is something most attractive ladies today have NEVER experienced.
She expects dudes to chase her.
Her entire experience is her sitting back while the dude does all the work.
Of pulling back emotionally and watching him desperately chase her.
Your entire frame is based on adult, mutual benefit.
As soon as she’s not feeing it, you do not chase.
You bounce and find somebody else.
This “always be qualifying” attitude is VERY attractive.
It implies a TON.
Social proof, sexual abundance and plenty of other choices besides her.
Develop this frame and LIVE a life of sexual abundance.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.