A long, long time ago, I worked at Disneyland.
In the guest research department.
Mostly this was quick and easy.
Right after people came into the park, we’d politely ask them if we could scan their ticket, and find out there zip code.
Other times we’d ask a few more questions, right after they came in.
How many days there were staying, where they were staying, etc.
But some of the times we’d have very lengthy questionnaires.
And these had to be done with random people inside the park.
In the front, near the gate, it’s easy.
People coming in are at PEAK happiness.
They’ve JUST entered the “happiest place on Earth.”
And you’re hanging out with all your other people at the front gate.
But when you’re out wandering around the park, you’re all alone.
You’re approaching groups of people.
Many of whom are NOT acting like they are in the “happiest place on Earth.”
But here’s the thing.
Whenever I’d start a day with a lot of “wandering around the park alone” kind of assignments, the first half hour or so would always be nerve wracking.
The first three or four groups I’d approach I’d be nervous.
But after about an hour, I’d get into a kind of “zone.”
After I’d blown past all the anxiety, etc.
That was when it was really FUN.
That’s when I would be most creative, conversationally.
That’s when my main goal was to HAVE FUN while getting the necessary information.
That’s when it was EASY to start conversations with people.
Easy to think of funny and goofy things to say in those conversations.
Happy Social Skills
Very, very, easy to make them smile and laugh.
This is the ideal mindset to have when doing pretty much anything.
When you’ve blown past the crappy stuff.
When you’ve kind of “calibrated” your frame to your environment.
When you start to see yourself as a “provider of good times” rather than some poor goof begging for approval.
You can apply this anywhere.
Like Colonel Sanders, for example.
The KFC dude?
Yep, same idea, only instead of over the course of a couple hours, over the course of his life.
It took him a while to hit his “zone.”
His story is famous.
But it’s generally told through the lens of “keep going, don’t give up.”
This is nice, but too vague to be of any use.
Instead, think instead of “keep going” but “keep calibrating.”
Move forward, slowly through time.
Accept all feedback, and adjust accordingly.
Accept that the beginning of ANY new endeavor, or any new day MAY suck.
But if you keep calibrating, your frame to the environment, you WILL hit your “zone.”
Happy Love Ladies
This could mean a fantastic night when you’re making all the ladies smile.
This could mean finally getting everything just right when you empire of wealth EXPLODES.
Find your zone, enjoy your life.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.