I was at this party recently. There was this gorgeous girl who was married to this geek.
I don’t mean that in a bad way. He was just NOT the kind of guy you expect to see with a girl like that.
I mean she was friendly, very attractive, intelligent, and had a pretty nice body.
He, on the other hand, was a geek.
He wasn’t rich, he didn’t have his own Internet company, and he wasn’t exactly sharpest dresser in town.
Naturally, I was curious as to how they hooked up. Now, you can’t just walk up to some kind folks you’ve just met and say,
“Dude, how in the hell did YOU wind up with a girl like THAT?”
You’ve got to kind of play it safe. Beat around the bush so to speak. Approach the whole “how did you meet” question with a kind of relaxed, almost disinterested curiosity.
The trick in teasing information out of people is to not put them on the spot.
You’ve got to get them talking, and give them just enough praise and validation to keep them going, but not so much you sound like some politician desperate for votes or a starving salesman ready to kill for a commission.
Just play it cool, and get them talking. Once they figure you’re not playing them, they’ll start talking and never stop.
Most folks LOVE to talk about themselves, once they’re convinced you’re not going to slam them, disagree with them or otherwise make them feel uncomfortable about what they’re talking about.
And in this case it didn’t take long.
But I was pretty surprised. Because the girl also realized that she was kind of “out of his league,” so to speak.
Now, she didn’t say this, or anything close, but as she described how they got together, it was like she was describing something that happened, yet she still didn’t fully believe it.
Like if you were walking down the street and you saw some Doberman standing on his hind legs smoking a pipe and reading the Saturday Evening Post.
So, how’d he do it?
He simply didn’t give up, and he didn’t take no for an answer.
In her words, he just “kept talking to her.”
They first met when she worked in an ice cream shop. He would just come in, hang out and talk to her.
Without giving up. Without taking any hints. Without getting dejected at the first sign of trouble and running home with his tail between his legs.
Now, it didn’t sound like he was stalking her. Based her description of her initial perception of him, he was a kind of strange, harmless but nevertheless geeky guy she most definitely WASN’T attracted to.
He, on the other hand, didn’t care. He just kept coming in and talking to her.
Until she finally became attracted.
See, even if attraction isn’t there from the start, you can still create it.
Especially if you use these mind triggers. Push the right buttons, and anybody will fall in love with you.
Find out how: