When was the last time you got into an argument?
If you can remember the structure, it was likely very similar to every other argument most people have. You state your case, they state theirs, and maybe somebody will even use some logic.
And the winner of the argument is usually the one who more forcefully states their case, or who gives up the least easiest.
Now, try and remember the last time you had an argument, and lost. Most likely you didn’t suddenly see the light, and feel good because you came to a new understanding. The reason we use words like “lose” an argument or “give in” is because the language used to describe arguments is the same exact language used to describe physical fighting.
Winners and losers.
And just like in a physical fight, the losers don’t usually become best pals with the winners. We use language like “lick your wounds,” “live to fight another day,” and so on.
Meaning if you’re honest with yourself, last time you “lost” an argument, the first thing on your mind, once you admitted defeat, was some kind of “revenge.”
“We’ll get them next time,” or “We lost the battle, but not the war,” and so on.
However, there is a much better way. A way to “win” virtually EVERY argument. Not only win, but win in such a way that makes it seem to the “other guy” that it was THEIR idea.
Meaning no hurt feelings, no animosity, and no revenge. Just good feelings all around.
When you learn and master the covert language patterns of “arguing,” you won’t ever seem like you’re arguing at all. You’ll just be posing questions.
You can even quote another person, so it’s not even you posing these questions.
Then when the person you’re talking to is considering these questions, they’ll come to the specific conclusion you want them to.
And think it was THEIR idea.
Naturally, these are very powerful, and can be used virtually EVERYWHERE. Sales, relationships, seductions, even on yourself.
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