Most guys would do anything to get some action.
Consider your mind set the last time you were around potential girlfriends or partners.
If you’re like most guys, you had a mindset of “I hope I get….”
I hope I get a phone number.
I hope I get laid.
I hope I get a nice conversation.
Most guys have a “less than helpful” mindset that is a mix between a beggar and a recreational gambler. Gamblers walk into a casino, “hoping” they’ll get lucky. They know that it’s largely up to chance, and if their mojo is “on” they’ll win some cash.
Beggars, of course, sit there waiting for people to give them stuff. Some are at least a little bit industrious, and will wash your windshields, but most of them just sit there with a cup and a sad expression.
If you walk into a club or social event with these two ideas in mind, you’re bound to fail.
Unlike a casino, your mindset has LOT to do with your success.
Instead of the gambler-beggar mindset, consider the sorter mindset.
It’s up to you to talk to plenty of girls, just to see what they’re like, and see if they qualify based on their personality.
Instead of simply accepting all or any of them based on your looks, this sorter mentality will do a lot of things.
One is you won’t be able to get rejected, since you haven’t accepted them yet. They can’t reject you if you don’t know if you want them.
This will also make it a lot easier to walk up and talk to girls. You’re not trying to “impress her” like all the other drooling clowns out there, you’re more on a “fact finding mission” to see if there is any mutual compatibility.
This will also significantly boost your attractiveness. Girls aren’t really turned on by beggars, but they ARE incredibly turned on by guys who simply won’t date just ANYBODY.
Of course, this is tough to do if you’ve never done it before. Since we’re hard wired to get laid as often as we can, any opportunity seems like a do or die situation.
That’s where practice can help. Not practice in seducing girls, but practice in disqualifying them.
Find some girl, and talk to her long enough to find something that you can use to disqualify her.
Once you get the hang of this, it will be incredibly easy.
One thing that will definitely help is to have a set of goals you’re creating in life BESIDES women.
Health, financial success, career goals, any kind of skills (music, martial arts, etc.) This will not only make it much easier to disqualify women, making you more attractive, but it will be much, much easier to get those girls that DO pass your tests.