When I was much younger, I fell hard for this girl. But since I didn’t know what to do about it, it was a one way love affair.
It only existed in my mind.
I’m almost embarrassed to say this, but I would always imagine what it would be like if we were actually together. Meaning I would go through my normal routine, and imagine what would happen if she was with me.
Now, this happened a long time ago, and to be honest I don’t even remember her name or what she looked like. I just remember being all up in my head about her.
I remember once reading that love is self hypnosis. At first I didn’t understand, but after that experience, I get it.
When she’s with you, she won’t fall for you. Meaning she won’t start off the date feeling ambivalent, and then fall head over heels while listening to your mad game during dinner.
If she does fall for you, it will be when you’re NOT together, but when she’s thinking about you.
But only in the right way. If she’s SURE you like her, she WON’T think about you. Even if she likes you.
Our brains don’t work that way. Once we KNOW we’ve got something, even if we like it, appreciate it, want it,and need it, we’ll take it for granted.
Since our brains take up a lot of energy, we’re programmed to think as little about stuff as we can.
So why would our brains keep thinking about stuff we KNOW is ours? They don’t. They’re busy trying to scheme and figure out how to get stuff we want but DON’T have.
See what I’m getting at?
If you call too much, text too much, even show too much interest when you’re with her, she’ll KNOW she’s got you, which will KILL any attraction. Often times even before it starts.
That’s why you’ve got to be very careful in the early stages of the relationship. Otherwise it’ll be dead before it leaves the gate.
Now, I know this is incredibly difficult. Especially if you haven’t had a lot of experience. Your caveman brain is literally screaming at you to express your interest, desire, and intentions.
But remember, our caveman brains and instincts evolved in a time when we saw the same couple hundred people our entire lives. In that situation, it actually was a good strategy to express interest to a girl who qualified.
But when she’s got plenty of choice, you’ve got to lay back, and get her chasing you. Keep her wondering if you like her or not. Because it’s that wondering, and thinking about you that will cause (and keep) the attraction.
Knowing all the other Mind Triggers will help out as well.
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