One powerful way that you can use to significantly increase her attraction is to keep her guessing. Knowing how to keep her guessing will go a long ways in create a fantastic relationship with her.
Once a girl thinks she’s “figured you out,” a couple of things can happen. One is that she decides you are perfect for her, and pursues a committed relationship. That’s great if that’s what you want. But it’s not so great if you’re not so sure about her, or you aren’t really looking for anything long term.
The other thing that might happen if you don’t know how to keep her guessing, meaning you lay all your cards on the table, is that she decides you’re NOT her type, and she wants nothing more to do with you.
This is likely the biggest cause for heartache among guys. We are somehow programmed to think that if we lay all our cards on the table, she will fall in love with us and we’ll live happily ever after.
Clearly, whether you know how to keep her guessing, or don’t know how to keep her guessing, laying all your cards on the table too early is a tempting but usually terrible move to make.
There’s a couple reasons for this, which is important you understand. One is that the temptation to lay all your cards on the table is usually because we feel we are losing her, and it’s a last ditch desperate attempt to win her over.
From her perspective, this comes across as a very needy form of begging, which is why it rarely works. Girls are simply not attracted to guys who aren’t in control of their emotions.
On the other hand, if you know how to keep her guessing, she will be much more likely to be attracted to you, giving you not only the upper hand, but having her chasing you, instead of you needing to chase her.
How To Keep Her Guessing
The simple trick is that less communication with her is better than more communication (to a point, obviously) and vague communication is much better than specific communication.
She’s always got to be wondering what’s on your mind. The idea is to be friendly with her, be confident around her, but never show her that you are attracted to you.
So long as she isn’t sure if you are attracted to her (even if you can’t get your mind off her) she’ll be much more interested in you.
If she KNOWS that you are into you, then you suddenly exist in a different portion of her mind. You will suddenly become THAT GUY that she KNOWS she can depend on.
That guys she KNOWS will give her a ride, or buy her dinner, or take her call at two in the morning.
How do you NOT become that guy? Keep her guessing!
How To Keep Her Guessing
Here are some basic guidelines that will help:
- Never text more than once a day.
- Never text more than one or two sentences.
- Keep non face to face communication to a minimum.
- Never confirm any get togethers you have.
- Never call her back right away.
- Never act butt hurt if she disses you.
- Never call her the same time.
- Never take her to the same place two times in a row.
- Never call her back before she returns your call.
- Never text her back if she doesn’t return your text.
The truth is that there are tons of things you can do, and tons of things you should avoid when it comes to knowing specifically how to keep her guessing.
The bottom line is that if a girl is into you, she WILL pursue you, and she WILL make it obvious.
In the beginning, when she’s kind of on the fence, it’s much better to apply the rule, “Less is More.”
Just like guys tend to come up with imaginations in their minds about their “perfect girl” even though they really don’t know her, girls will do the same thing.
If you give her too much information about yourself, you’re robbing her of the ability to do that.
Let her imagine. Let her fantasize about you. Let her come up with a picture in her mind of what she thinks about you.
Keep her guessing. Less is more. Let her come to you.
Will this work with all girls?
But the ones that this WILL work with are the girls that are REALLY going to be interested in you, and will take the time and effort to pursue you.
When you practice these techniques of how to keep her guessing, your love life will take a turn for the better!
So ridiculous. Teaching men to play games. Don’t you know its the man’s place to pursue a woman. Not gentlemanly at all. Bad form.
The way it was explained to me was that by keeping the interactions very ‘tight and light’ and by using the time on the phone to set a date and quickly hop off, a man is showing his woman a masculine energy. Some men lie and purposely cancel dates, I honestly don’t think that’s a way to build trust with women. But there’s something to be said in offering women a mystery, in giving them a challenge. It demonstrates to the woman that the man has worth and knows it. Just like anything in life, we look to challenge ourselves to prove who we are and what we think we are worth.
Absolutely awful advice. Completely backwards. Any guy who doesn’t make it clear he’s interested in a women comes off as an immature, emasculated, LIGHTWEIGHT, who is lacking in basic social skills and probably didn’t have a masculine role model when growing up. Sad that this site isn’t giving better advice.
My own mother told me years ago that I shouldn’t wear my heart on my sleeve and women like a challenge. Just like men do. If you’re “easy” to figure out, where’s the curiosity? The challenge? People are always attracted to the mystery, this isn’t saying to ignore someone or be disrespectful, and if you’re interested in them, they’ll feel that, but being not 1000% accessible all the time is a strong way to be. Women have been doing that forever, because they know that makes an interested man more interested. Works both ways.
So far has worked like a charm. I’ve used it twice so far.
Let’s face it….who wants to end up in the friend zone? Become too needy too fast and you’ll end up “that guy”. Forget that!
Get with the program and get the girl who really matters