When we use the term “natural” we tend to mean people who are unconsciously good at something.
Let’s explore this idea.
Take somebody who’s a seemingly “natural” at playing the piano. They can sit down, listen to somebody hum a few notes, and quickly improvise an entire song on the spot, playing beautiful music right from their brain to your ears.
No sheet music required.
Now, did that person come out of the womb with that skill? Not likely. There was a time when they didn’t even know what a piano was, or what it did.
Then there was a time when they knew what a piano was, and that the different keys made different sounds, but they couldn’t fathom how the heck to play them together with any competence.
So how did they go from the beginning stage, to the advanced, “natural” stage?
Practice.
Of course, this might not be the right label. They likely didn’t think of it as practice, as in, “I can’t video games today, I’ve got to practice the piano.”
They likely enjoyed it. Quite a bit. Enjoyed discovering how to play the various keys together. Enjoyed listening to other masters and emulating them. Enjoyed listening themselves playing better and better with each passing day.
What about their next door neighbor? How would they describe it? Who knows.
Maybe they heard them playing terribly at first, and then slowly improved. Maybe they imagined they had one of those “Tiger Moms” that threatened to cut off their fingers if they didn’t practice for two hours a day.
I suppose you could define “art” as the application of highly polished skills in a manner that is spontaneously expressed, based largely on emotions.
Singing, dancing, acting, and yes, seducing.
Think of the guy “practicing” the piano. Did he worry when he made mistakes? When he made the neighborhood cats run away in terror? Made the neighbors wish they would have bought a house somewhere else?
Not likely. He was just thinking about how awesome it was going to be when he could play as well as the masters.
Or be a master himself.
What goes through your mind when you’re out “practicing” your skills? Where are you focuses? On getting everything “right,” or what it will be like when you’ve honed your skills so much that you can seduce any woman, any where, any time? (Even if it’s your girlfriend or wife)
Mastery of anything, no matter how simple it looks from the “naturals” takes time.
Give yourself some.
And give yourself some help, too. After all, anything that helps you move forward along the path is worth doing, right?
Here’s something that will help: