I was reading this interview with this famous martial artist. The guy doing the interview asked him how he could fight so effortlessly, and always stay on balance.
He said that was absolutely not true. The entire fight was one of two guys trying their hardest to push the other guy off balance, so they could sneak in some blows and get some points.
The same goes when your seducing a girl. Now, I’m not talking about getting her off balance so you can punch her in the face. That would be criminal.
What I am talking about is keeping her guessing. If you walk up, introduce yourself, tell her she’s pretty, and make some lame comment about the atmosphere, she’s going to know EXACTLY why you are there.
Which means she’ll be sitting there, not feeling ANY worry about how the interaction will end up. In fact, she probably decided whether or not she was going to give you her number seconds after you opened your mouth and started talking.
That’s why you’ve ALWAYS got to keep her guessing, at least in the beginning. Ideally, she should think that you are confident, successful, and she should NOT be sure that you are trying to pick her up.
That way, since she’ll be wondering if you’re going to number close her or not, she’ll start to want you to.
Even if she’s not into you to start off with, if she suspects that you don’t find her attractive enough to number close her, she’ll start to wish you would just to save face.
And this “wishing you would” is enough for her to convince herself, on an unconscious level, that you ARE attractive.
One FANTASTIC way to get her wondering is to not talking linearly. Meaning don’t say the same things, in the same order, that every other guy does.
Start stories and then leave her hanging. Talk about random stuff, and then relate it to other random stuff. All while looking at her with appreciation and desire.
Because she’ll never know where you’re going with the conversation, she’ll be transfixed, and this causes attraction.
One powerful way to do this is with a set of language patterns that were originally built for therapy and then later used in sales.
They are designed to take an idea (originally an objection) and flip it all over the place. Do this within a regular conversation, and you’ll be like no one she’s ever seen before.