I got a couple buddies who are big into fishing. When they go out, and somebody “loses” a fish, they call it a “farm job,” meaning you should give up fishing and become a farmer.
However, thinking in terms of a farmer, or using a farmer metaphor, you may find incredible success with women.
It takes wrapping your mind around a couple of ideas.
First is that any success with girls requires a certain degree of self-confidence, and self-esteem. You know this. No matter how much you have, you can always use more.
Another thing that will help is a lot of positive experiences with women. The golden moment in your history with women comes with that magical “tipping point.” When you approach a girl, and like always, your subconscious scans your history to give you a “feeling” about what might happen, based on what happened before.
That “tipping point” comes when your positive experiences with women outweigh your negative experiences. So instead of delivering a feeling of anxiety, your subconscious delivers a feeling of:
“Dude, this is gonna be AWESOME!”
So here’s a two-step method that will get you there.
One is to build up your self-confidence. A great way to do that is to do “good deeds” for people, WITHOUT expecting a “thank you.” That way, you’ll judge yourself as being a “good person” so you’ll naturally boost your self-confidence and self esteem.
Anytime you see somebody that can use a hand, in any way, give it to them, and then QUICKLY SPLIT.
Do what Jesus recommended, and “do good deeds in secret.”
Step two is to increase your positive experiences with women. How do you do this?
Make them smile.
In fact, you can combine both steps one and two. Do your daily good deeds by making as many women smile as you can.
Don’t ask for the number, don’t try and start a conversation. Just some simple, harmless, drive by flirting.
I don’t care what they say, girls LOVE IT when guys flirt with them. So long as you’re not standing their slobbering all over yourself and touch yourself, you’re good.
Especially if your both moving in opposite directions. Give her a clear, open look with your facial expressions that says:
“Damn! You are HOT!”
And just keep on walking.
Imagine that you’re a farmer, randomly planting seeds of happiness in the minds of the world’s women.
This way, you’ll kill two birds with one stone, boosting self esteem while also getting TONS of positive experiences with women, bringing that magical tipping point closer and closer.
Of course, when it comes time to talk to them, having the right set of language patterns can help.
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