I remember once (many, many moons ago) I was on my way to the study hall in the dorm I was living in.
I was carrying a big math book, and I passed by one of my buddies.
“Going to practice some math?” He asked.
I thought that strange, because up until then, I figured that I was “studying” math, not “practicing” it.
But it made sense . Compared to other subjects, where you learn and memorize facts and figures, and then spit them out on the test, math is a bit different.
Instead of just memorizing formulas, they give you problems, and then you’ve got to solve the problems.
It’s more like a performance test, than a memory or demonstration of understanding test.
Kind of like if you were tested for your basketball skills, or your pie baking skills, or yes, even your seduction skills.
Many guys fall into the trap of thinking that seduction is something you can “learn.”
Meaning that once you “understand it,” everything will kind of “fall into place.”
Kind of like learning how to ride a bike, or learning to tie your shoes.
You go through a stage of life where you “don’t know,” then you go through a very short stage where you are “learning” and then you finally reach the stage where you “know,” and don’t have to think about it.
But learning to talk to girls and consistently create attraction is a bit more complicated than tying your shoes or riding a bike.
Most shoes tie up the same way, and most bikes ride the same way. You learn it once, and you’re done.
But ALL girls are different. They have different backgrounds, different experiences, different beliefs, different desires, and different expectations.
Which is why learning to talk to girls is a lot more like math than learning to tie your shoes.
Even the most genius math wizards in the world need to work on their “game” on a daily basis.
Why should real game be any different?
Of course, this has both “good news” and “bad news.”
The “bad news” is that idea of finally “arriving” where you don’t have to worry any more, and it will just happen naturally, is largely a myth. (Promoted largely by guys selling expensive programs that allegedly get you there).
But the good news is that it’s ALWAYS practice. There’s always other girls to talk to, always other relationships to build, and always different and more congruent ways to express yourself.
The key is to forget about trying to “be” somebody you’re not, and simply “be” who you are. So when “you” improve, it’s really “you” and not a pretend “you.”
That’s why true assertiveness is crucial.
If you’d like to truly increase your communication skills and build confidence, self confidence, then check out this assertive communication course today. You’ll find that assertiveness is much easier than you realize.