Old School Radio
When I was much younger, fresh out of college, I listened to a radio station in LA.
Driving to and from work.
In the morning, they had a talk show duo.
Did a lot of funny bits in between the music.
During the drive home, it was mostly music.
But they did have comic relief.
Replays of then famous stand up routines.
One guy they played a lot.
The routine was a guy explaining a common dating scenario.
Like you’re on a date, your date says something that you can’t respond to.
But then later, like several hours later that night, you wake up in the middle of the night.
And think of a response.
And in the comedy routine, the guy drove over to her house, in the middle of the night, banged on her door, and delivered his comeback.
Like eight hours after the event.
This was the funny part.
Of taking eight hours to reply to somebody.
This is funny because this is a common fear.
Of hearing somebody say something and not knowing what to say in response.
And then standing there, like an idiot, with everybody watching.
“Um, I uh, um, what?”
Get It Going
Another common problem is not knowing HOW to start the conversation.
You see somebody somewhere.
They look attractive and interesting.
Maybe you share a bit of eye contact.
Maybe even a smile.
So you have a pretty good idea they’d like a conversation.
Or at the very least a conversation would be a pretty safe bet.
But what, specifically, do you say?
This is when most people freeze.
Their brain gets stuck.
Rid Yourself of Fear
Anxiety has a tendency to do that.
To keep your brain from naturally coming up with in the moment things to say.
The more anxious you feel, the harder it is to say the “right” thing.
In the movies, both people, are super shy.
So when they guy nervously strolls up and says hey, the low tech opener caused by the anxiety is OK.
Since both people are feeling the same level of anxiety.
This is another common fear.
You are nervous, they are not.
You are hoping to impress them.
They are stone cold killers with super ninja responses who get approached by super genius alpha playboys all day long.
As if they will look at you and say:
“Yes, peasant? Please explain why you dare approach somebody so far above your social status?”
In reality, none of these are true.
And you can easily prove this to yourself, for some quick conversational love.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.