One of the key measurements of your success in the realm of seduction is your ability to “number close.”
This is a key milestone, and unless you’re comfortable asking for the number, you’ll always be facing difficulty.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve got billions of sure fire lines memorized, and can come up with clever witticisms’ on the spot, you’ll be at a disadvantage.
Communication is 93% non verbal.
This means that when you’re actually in the process of asking for the number, the words you use only make up 7% of your whole message.
Even if you have the best memorized line ever, if you’re nervous it will be less effective.
I know, I hear you. Being nervous is normal. Everybody is nervous. Even naturals get nervous.
But the key is how she interprets your nervousness.
One famous saying from NLP is the “meaning of your communication is how it’s perceived.”
Meaning it doesn’t matter at all what your intentions are, it’s how they’re perceived by her.
Not fair? Nope.
The way it is? Yep.
Often times, nervousness, anxiety, etc, can easily be misinterpreted as creepiness, or dishonesty, or shiftiness.
Just like if you don’t say anything, your nervousness may be misinterpreted as aloofness or disinterest.
If the world had a nickel for every time a guy was too shy to ask a girl out, and she interpreted this as him not being interested, we’d never have another national debt problem. Ever.
So part of your strategy in asking for her number, however you want to ask, is to make it easy for her to say yes.
Don’t send any mixed messages, don’t put any pressure on her, don’t be so nervous that she thinks you’re some kind of ax murderer.
How do you decrease your nervousness? Practice. The more you practice, the easier it gets. Especially when you practice getting rejected.
The more experience you have getting rejected, and walking away with your heart still beating and your wallet and brains intact, the easier it will be.
Pretty soon you’ll have the mindset of “If she says yes, cool. If she says no, no biggie,” you’ll be getting more numbers than you know what to do with.
Because this is the exact attitude that women find attractive. A kind of “take it or leave it” attraction in her.
You like her. You like talking to her. You enjoy her company.
But you don’t need her.
She’ll not only be attracted to that, but she’ll respect that.
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