It’s clear to most guys with even a basic understanding of game that confidence is key.
Meaning a guy that walks through the world with a deep belief that he can handle anything that comes up will be much more attractive to most girls than a guy who walks around worried about what’s going to happen.
This is just as true when you’re in a conversation with her. Guys who talk to her like they are walking on egg shells are NOT attractive. They come across as desperate, needy, and fearful of saying the wrong thing.
On the other hand, guys that speak their minds, (in a non-threatening or dismissive way) without worrying about her response will be MUCH more attractive.
To take it a step further, when she openly disagrees or playfully “puts down” his ideas or opinions (in other words, tests him) and it clearly DOESN’T phase him, it will jack up her attraction even more.
Meaning if he’s got a happy, self confident vibe flowing and he MAINTAINS THAT VIBE regardless of how much she playfully disses him, she pretty much can’t help but feel attracted to him.
Girls are hard wired to be attracted to guys like that just like guys are hard wired to be attracted to your favorite porn stars.
One way to give yourself an incredible edge in this regard is to be able to “reframe” in the moment, either conversationally or in your mind.
Reframing is when you take the “meaning” of a situation, (either defined by somebody else or defined by general consensus) and then changing the meaning to suit your own needs and desires.
Here’s a rough example. You’re walking down the street, and you say hi and smile at a girl.
She looks at you, doesn’t change her facial expression, and keeps walking.
If you’ve got low self confidence, you might think this “means” that she doesn’t like you.
If you’ve got super human self confidence, you might assume this “means” that she’s so incredibly attracted to you, she froze, like a doe in the headlights.
Which “meaning” is correct? It doesn’t matter. The ONLY thing that matters is your BEHAVIOR based on the MEANING you choose to be correct.
When you can do this, on the fly, you will easily be the MOST ATTRACTIVE guy she’s ever talked to.
To learn all the different ways to change meaning, check this out: