Every guy wants to become more successful with women. (Unless of course you’re married, in which case…why are you reading this??!!)
Anyhow, being shy can be a huge impediment to being able to feel comfortable talking to those girls you like and finding out if there’s any kind of mutual attraction.
After all, seeing a cute girl across the room, making some eye contact with them, and getting up and walking over there, AND starting and maintaining a conversation is not so easy, even for guys who’ve got TONS of experience doing this.
Seduction Tip One
So the first step is to realize that ALL guys have trouble with this, except maybe those top 0.1% naturals out there, that have somehow had a collection of experiences (and perhaps some DNA mutations) that tells him that talking to girls is nothing but a walk in the park.
Seduction Tip Two
The second tip to remember is that most of the time, she’s just as nervous as you. While you’re walking over there thinking what to say, she’s frozen on her chair, wondering what you’re going to say and what she’s going to say in response.
When you keep this in mind, it’s a good idea to think of ways to make it easy on her, make her comfortable, rather than think you need to go over there and “impress her” or anything like that.
Seduction Tip Three
Once you get over there, just relax and get to know her. Now, this may seem incredibly difficult, but that’s only if you’ve ALREADY made up your mind that you want to sleep with her, or kiss her, or get her number.
Instead, think of a few things that would be “deal breakers.” And think of the purpose of the conversation as finding out if she’s got those “deal breakers” or not.
What deal breakers should you think of? Imagine the most gorgeous woman in the world. Sexy body, gorgeous face, but she has something about her personality that totally turns you off.
Maybe she belongs to an intolerant religious cult. Maybe she spends $1000 on her hair and nails, and expects you to pay. Maybe she practices witchcraft every full moon by sacrificing goats and bathing in their blood.
Whatever you would turn YOU off, think of a few of those.
Of course, the purpose is not to go over and ask her straight out of she’s a witch, but to get your mind out of the unhelpful frame of, “She’s a perfect goddess and I hope she accepts me!”
It’s to put you in a more resourceful state of “Hmm, she looks hot, but I wonder what kind of personality she’s got?”
Then when you walk over, don’t judge, don’t hate, don’t try to show off how cool you are, just get to know her.
Put her in a neutral standing, in your mind, when you walk over there. Let curiosity be your guide.
When you talk to her, just find out about her, and let her know about you. Ask easy to answer questions at first. When she gets more comfortable, ask more probing questions, about her dreams, hopes, favorite things.
Remember, she’s got vast background, and you may or may not “click.” Just give yourself and her an honest chance, and see what happens.
You’ll find it’s a lot easier.
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