Getting “rejected” feels terrible.
But as you’ll soon find out, this is a myth. In reality, it’s virtually impossible for anybody to reject anybody else.
It’s just a strange hallucination leftover from automatic caveman thinking.
Think about the last time “you” got “rejected” by a girl.
How long did you interact with her before she “rejected” you? Five minutes? Ten minutes?
In order to buy in to the “rejection” theory, she’d have to have some pretty amazing skills in order to “reject” you in those five or ten minutes.
Like looking into your brain, understanding your entire history, your whole complex system of beliefs and experiences, hopes and dreams.
I doubt that even YOU know what those are.
So did she really “reject” you?
So what happened?
She’s a human. And as a human, we all have our buttons. Push them in certain orders, and certain things will happen.
Hit our knee with a rubber hammer, and we’ll kick. Shove some dog poop under our nose and we’ll gag. Show us a video of some guy getting hammered in the nuts and we’ll instinctively cover up.
Attraction, as I’m sure you know, is most certainly NOT a choice.
That means she can’t help but feel attracted when you push her buttons the right way. Just like she can’t help “rejecting” you if you push her buttons the wrong way. Or less than the right way.
If you go to the ATM, and accidentally type in the wrong PIN, do you feel “rejected”?
If you’re driving around and get lost, do you feel “rejected” by geography?
If you’re shooting free throws by yourself, and miss, do you feel “rejected” by the rim?
Of course not. You see it for what it is. In order to “succeed” you need to certain things in a certain order. If you do those certain things in a certain order, you can’t NOT succeed.
Why do we feel differently when talking to sexually attractive women?
Because there’s tons at stake, or so it seems. In reality, it’s like stock market player’s dream come true.
Tons of potential rewards, but almost zero risk.
You walk up, break the ice, create some rapport, and try to “push her buttons” in the right combination.
If you hit the jackpot, well, you hit the jackpot.
If you don’t, then you leave no worse off than when you started. In fact, if you’re honest with yourself, even those times where you do get “rejected” you get quite a boost to your self confidence for making the approach in the first place.
So get out there and push some buttons.