When a guy readies himself to approach a girl, especially a hot one that pushes all of his buttons, he usually has to overcome a huge wall of resistance.
Of course, this resistance is largely imaginary, but it’s still pretty big.
Try thinking of it this way:
The reason we feel resistance is because on the one hand, we imagine that she’s this perfect princess that is possibly the best lay and potential girlfriend a guy could want.
On the other hand, she could embarrass us in front of our friends. That would be horrible, to say the least.
The first one is fantastic. If we could talk to her, and it came true? Damn…
But the second idea is what throws us. Inside of that idea is the presupposition that she’s a perfectly confident, linguistically skilled individual who can deftly handle any and all approaches. Like she’s some queen sitting up on a throne, able to pick and choose whom she wants.
The more you think about that idea, the more you can realize how preposterous it is.
What’s more likely, is that when you start to approach, she’s likely just as nervous as you. What if you say something that doesn’t know how to respond to?
What if you start talking to her and decide you’re not interested in her?
What if YOU reject HER?
All of these fears are running through her head, just as strongly as your fears are running through yours.
Bottom line is she’s hoping the same thing you are.
That you two will hit it off, have wonderful sex that can turn into a fantastic relationship.
Your job is to be kind, take control of the conversation, and make it easy on her to see how possible that really is.
You’re not trying to pass her tests, you’re trying to help her pass yours.