Most guys have a common problem when looking at that girl across the room. Sure, we’d love to go over there and talk to her, sure we’d love to get her number.
But what the heck do we say when we go and “interrupt” her?
A common fear is that we’ll get over there, spit something out, and she’ll look at us with a “Yes, why should I spend any time listening to you?” expression on her face.
Just thinking about it is enough to get us cooking up a billion excuses NOT to go and talk to her.
One thing that will make it easier is to forget about trying to impress her. Most guys think they need to say something, have her listen to it and suddenly be blown away by our mad conversational skill and powers of observation.
Unless you’re a world famous stand up comic, or have a few thousand cold approaches under your belt, this won’t likely happen.
A much better approach is to just think of something that’s easy for her to respond to, without having to think too much.
Truth is that when you approach her, she’s likely to be just as nervous as you.
So if you try to “impress” her with some kind of wicked one-liner, she may feel “on the spot,” which might elicit feelings of defensiveness instead of attraction.
On the other hand, when you walk over and say things that will be easier for her to process and respond to, you’ll have a much better chance.
This way, you’ll be able to slowly build that all important rapport that makes it so much easier.
So what specifically should you talk about?
Start by talking about things not related to you or her. Talk about your environment. Talk about what’s happening around you.
While you’re doing this, look for any kind of non-verbal cues that you’re on the right track.
For example, if you mention a band that’s playing, and she lightens up a bit, you can start talking about music, the kind of music she likes, etc.
When you start off easy, and let her give you clues on where to take conversation, you’ll have a much better chance of getting her number and seeing her again.
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