Say you see a girl across the room. You’d love to go over and game her, but for some reason, you can’t think of a reason to start the conversation.
Next time you’re in this situation, try this out.
Think of an honest compliment. Then jack it up a few notches. Really make it “out there.”
Like if you think she’s cute, say she’s the most gorgeous woman you’ve ever seen.
If she’s got a nice dress on, tell her it reminds you of a fresh day in spring when everybody has a new beginning. (Totally lame, I know…)
Then put it behind the simple phrase:
“What if I were to tell you…”
This puts it in the hypothetical. You’re not really saying it. But in order to imagine what it would be like if you did say it, she’d have to imagine you saying it. Even though you’re not saying it.
Get it?
It not only creates confusion, but it’s kind of an implied “take away.” Like you’re thinking about complimenting her, and you aren’t sure if you want to yet.
For example:
What if I were to tell you that you are the most gorgeous girl in the bar?
Now, it’s important not to say this with a desperate look on your face hoping she’ll reward you for your genius and wit. DON’T say this like it’s some ultra-cute pickup line that is supposed to make her fall in love with you.
In actuality, it’s a test. A test of her personality, her imagination, and her ability to “play along.”
Say it as if you really aren’t sure if you want to say it or not. You’re still deciding if you’d like to give her an honest compliment.
If she is slightly taken aback, embarrassed, and doesn’t know what to say WHILE showing slightly open body language, you’re in. Proceed.
However, if she is put off, thinks you’re weird, or closes off her body language, you’re out. Eject and go talk to somebody else.
Remember, you are the qualifier, and this is a fun way to “test” her.