I’m sure you’ve heard it’s important to set goals. Otherwise you’d float through life and bounce around like a ping pong ball in a hurricane.
Not much direction.
And I’m also sure that you’ve heard about all those studies that have shown people who set goals tend to make a lot more money than those who don’t.
And perhaps you’ve heard about how to set a goal according to the “well-formed” parameters of NLP.
That goals have to be specific, time depending, measurable and observable, and they have to be something that you TRULY want.
It’s that last part that gets most people tripped up. Usually without really knowing about it.
See, when set a goal, there’s a lot going on in our minds. It’s hard to determine if we’re really setting the goal for ourselves or for other people.
Say you want to lose weight. You even go so far as figure out how much you want to lose, and choose a reasonable time in which to lose it.
But why do you want to lose weight? Is being slimmer your REAL goal?
If you were on an island, all by yourself, and you didn’t to worry about anything, would you still want to lose weight?
If you KNEW that NOBODY would ever judge you based on your appearance, and your doctor said that carrying around and extra ten or twenty pounds wasn’t such a big deal, would you STILL want to lose weight?
What if you were two days into your diet, and you met an incredibly attractive person, who was TOTALLY into you, just the way you were, and they went even so far as to say your EXACT body size and shape is what turned them on so much?
Would you STILL want to lose weight?
Consider these next time your choosing a goal to achieve. Run through these “hypothetical” questions in your mind.
What are you really after?
Is there an easier way to get it?