There are two kinds of reality. The objective, measurable, reality “out there.”
Then there’s the subjective, interpretive reality “in here.”
The “out there” reality is what can be observed, measured, recorded, and later studied.
The “in here” reality is based on our subjective biases, filters and beliefs.
One problem with human nature is that we operate on reality “out there” as if it’s the same as our reality “in here.”
You’re walking down the street, and you see a cute girl. You smile, and make eye contact. She holds eye contact, doesn’t smile, and then looks at her iPhone.
What just happened.
Well, objectively, what just happened was what is written above.
Subjectively? The meanings can be as varied as people on this planet.
She hates me, she hates white guys (or black guys or whatever), she’s a lesbian, she’s stuck up, she didn’t see me, I’m a ghost and I don’t know it yet….
On and on.
The truly sad part is that for the vast majority of us, we don’t recognized that our subjective internal reality is as flexible and malleable as Silly Putty.
This means that with the right tools, we can easily change it.
For example, what if your natural “go to” belief in the above “girl-not-smiling” example was “she doesn’t like guys like me,” what would that do your self esteem and self confidence?
But what if you could easily flip your belief to be, “she’s totally into me and she looked away so quickly because super handsome guys like me make her nervous.”
What would that do to your self esteem and self confidence? If you TRULY believed that?
What if there were a set of tools that you could use to not only change your OWN internal beliefs, but the internal beliefs of others as well?
Through simple, regular conversation?
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