It’s clear to many that having criteria is essential for romantic success with women.
Meaning that unless you know what you’re specifically looking for in a woman, you are bound to be disappointed.
Most guys, although they realize this, set out in their seduction goals just kind of hoping to “get lucky.” They may even go so far as buying endless seduction manuals, courses, and spending all kinds of time on seduction message boards.
They may even spend time reading the inappropriately targeted, “Art Of Seduction,” By Greene.
However, many guys overlook one simple thing that can dramatically increase your seduction results, whether or not you’re trying to create that one special relationship, or whether you’re simply trying to get as much action as possible.
Seduction Essentials – Criteria
This one factor is the source of plenty of heartache. Take the very common “one-itis” for example.
You see a girl and maybe interact with her a bit. Maybe even go on a few dates and hook up a couple of times.
Then she leaves you in the dust, for whatever reason. Since you’ve only been together a few times, there’s NO WAY you really know who she is. Which means you have no idea if she’s a match for your criteria, since you don’t really have any.
So what do you do? Most guys just assume that she’s perfect (even though she’s not) and they fall in love with an idea of what they think she’s like, when in reality she’s nothing of the sort.
On the other side of the coin, you might hook up with somebody, only she does the opposite. She never leaves you alone. Because you had no criteria, you quickly fell head over heels (largely because of the same reasons – your assumptions about her rather than the real her).
So now you’re stuck with some girl who won’t leave you alone, and the more you get to know her, the more you’re realizing you’d made a huge mistake.
Having a solid set of criteria can solve both of these problems before they start.
Now, when I say criteria, I mostly mean NON-PHYSICAL criteria. Anybody with a pulse can come up with physical criteria on the spot without needing to think. That’s NOT what we’re talking about.
What we’re talking about is her personality, beliefs, self confidence, degree of self responsibility, and wether or not she’s a potential psycho nutjob that will stab you in the eye with an ice pick while you’re sleeping.
But there’s one more than guys almost always forget. But it is essential.
That is that she MUST be clearly into you. She MUST return your calls. She MUST show up on time. She MUST not diss you in front of her friends.
If she does any of these, she’s out. Not to punish her, or prove your manhood, or overcompensate for your butt-hurtedness, but simply to disqualify her. As if you found out she smoked, or was the wrong political party, or a Mormon, or whatever.
Never ever waste any of your precious energy trying to “prove” that you’re right and she’s wrong. It’s a waste of time. Simply disqualify her, and shift your focus AWAY FROM HER and toward more qualified candidates.
This is actually pretty easy to do once you’ve got some solid plans for your life OTHER than chasing disqualified candidates. The more you build your life, the higher your standards will be.
This will paradoxically do more for you, your frame, your attraction than any combination of seduction techniques, negs, lines and whatever else they are saying.
Clearly, seduction is much better as an inner game, rather than an outer game.
The bottom line, is that learning skills of seduction is simply the best self development tool you can ever create. You’ll gain self confidence, self esteem, and finally become independent of those “in the moment” judgments of other people.