Last night I watched “The Bounty” on Netflix. The one with a very young Mel Gibson and Anthony Hopkins (Hannibal Lecter vs. The Road Warrior lol)
Both what was shown in the movie, and what wasn’t shown, is a fantastic study of male-female relationships.
Here are a few.
First, so long as the sailors were “connected” to the British Crown, they were very valuable to the natives (especially the unmarried women). The three guys who deserted suddenly found themselves out of favor to EVERYBODY.
The ladies liked the guys (despite not being able to speak the same language) because of what they represented. Not their looks, or their CURRENT WEALTH. But what the girls IMAGINED they could provide them later.
Once the guys “went beta” they were rejected by everybody.
Second, the scenes with Mel Gibson and the his native girl are potentially some of the best film “pick up” scenes ever. No word were spoken. EVERYTHING was conveyed through body language, and action.
Think about this next time you tell yourself some nonsense about not “having the right words.”
She looked, he looked. She smiled, he smiled. She ran, he chased. He caught.
Third, (and this part wasn’t in the movie) after several sailors mutinied, and stole the boat, they took some of the women to a Pitcairn’s Island, which wasn’t on any charts.
Meaning that about twenty guys went to an island with about twenty girls.
Did they live happily ever after? Not a chance.
Just a few years later, all the dudes were dead except for one. When the British Navy finally found them, there was one guy, a bunch of women, and a bunch of kids.
What’s this mean? Once you’ve got your woman, the game is far from over. If you want to keep her, you’ve got to continue to game her.
I’m sure you are well aware of the massive foolishness of bringing a girl you’ve only started to date to a club where there’s gonna be a plenty of other guys on the prowl.
Let’s recap the lessons from the movie.
Notice. Approach. Escalate. Isolate.
You can start this process anytime, anywhere. None of them are easy, or automatic.
But just imagine what you’ll get when you get to the last step.
(So long as you’re not trapped on an island with a bunch of dudes who’ll happily brain you to death while you sleep to steal your girl, lol)
Noticing just takes some sensory acuity. Approaching takes balls.
Escalating takes skill. The skill of being able to push her buttons, and get her thinking about you in the way you want. Once that’s done, it will almost be HER idea to isolate. Since she’ll be wanting to do the same thing. Keep you away from the competition.
To learn how to leverage these mind triggers to effective escalation, check this out:
It will make everything much, much easier.