One way guys blow themselves out is through improper use of texting. Some say silly things like “alpha males don’t text,” but like any tool, there’s right ways and wrong ways to use it.
In order to create and maintain attraction, you’ve got to do a few basic things. Now, how specifically you do these is up to you, your communication style, your particular set of social skills, but basics are basics.
One is that you can’t be too available. The law of scarcity is an ancient instinct that’s been programmed into our DNA for hundreds of thousands of years. It’s just as powerful in relationships as it is in last minute deals for widgets that are expiring in 5..4..3…
If you’re always available, you’re simply not going to be attractive.
Now, what does “always available” mean? Does it mean that you’re camped out on her door step, or hanging around outside her window or place of work, ready with a bouquet and some Italian dudes with violins?
The crucial thing here is her “belief” about your availability. Whether or not you’re actually available all the time is not really the issue. The issue is what she thinks about your availability. If she THINKS you’re available, all the time, whether you are or not, you’re toast.
And once she’s made that determination? It’s very, very hard to change it.
Beliefs are kind of like first impressions. They form in seconds, but can take YEARS to un-form.
So be careful.
This is where texts can either skyrocket your attraction, or quickly send it plummeting.
Two rules apply.
One is that less is better.
Two is that less is better.
The first rule, (less is better) applies to how many times you text. Once every couple days, tops. Remember, as soon as she starts thinking you’ll be there whenever she needs you, you’re done.
The second rule, (less is better) applies to the texts themselves. Don’t give her every single detail of what you’re doing.
Text her an unfinished thought. A quick, one liner cliffhanger. Something to keep her thinking. If you complete the thought, she’ll read the text and then easily move to her next thought, which likely won’t be you.
But if you leave a short cliff hanger, AND only text her every couple days, she’ll no choice BUT to think of you.
Of course, learning some of the powerfully persuasive language patterns of covert hypnosis can help.
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