Getting dumped sucks. I’ve been there. A few times. No matter how strong you think you’re game is, no matter how well you think things are going, it always comes out of the blue, and it always hurts.
Usually for a long time.
Why does it happen?
There’s three major reasons why a girl breaks up with you:
Lack of Attraction
Lack of Obligation
Too much Pain
Let’s look at each a bit further:
Lack of Attraction
Girls get into relationships because they are attracted to you. Those feelings of attraction fire up those long ago programmed evolutionary responses that tell her she’s safe with you, and on some subconscious level, she feels you’d be a good daddy to her kids.
When that attraction goes away, she may stay, but she won’t do it because she wants to. She does it because of inertia. She’s comfortable, and in her mind, finding somebody else would just be too much hassle.
Lack of Obligation
When there’s no more attraction, plenty of girls will stay in a relationship because their afraid they’ll look bad to family and friends if they get out. Of course, this is getting less and less true as we move through time. It’s become socially acceptable to become a single mother.
Too Much Pain
She may not feel obligated to stay, she may not feel attracted, but she may just be too lazy to find somebody else. Sad as it sounds, a lot of relationships last much longer than they should because both couples are incredibly bored and unfulfilled, they’re also extremely lazy. They’ve settled, and they’re OK with their decision.
However, this changes in a hurry when the relationship becomes painful. Then being alone, despite how horrible this may feel, is better than being in a relationship with somebody that you simply can’t stand.
As you can see, all of these are hard to fix once they rear they’re heads. The best defense, they say, is a good offense.
The best way to make sure your relationship is always healthy, happy, and fulfilling is to always maintain attraction.
Think of a relationship like you would a set of six pack abs. It takes work to achieve, and it takes work to maintain.
You may have found yourself in a relationship with a hottie that pushes your buttons in wonderful ways, but your job as a seducer is far from over.
Keep her on her toes, maintain your dominance, be the leader, and never think you’re done.