Imagine the last time you tried to lose some weight. Remember how hungry you got, and how hard it was to resist eating?
Now imagine you’re in the same situation. You’ve told yourself you desperately need to lose a couple of pounds. You’re at home, and you’re starving. You look in the fridge, and the ONLY thing that’s in there is a gigantic tub of ice cream (if you don’t like ice cream, or ice cream isn’t your particular Achilles heel, insert you favorite NON diet food).
Now be honest. You’re home alone. You’re starving. There’s nothing to do but sit and find something decent on TV. The internet is broken your cell phone battery is dead, and all your video games have vanished.
How easily can you resist eating that food in the fridge?
If you’re like most mortals, not very. Meaning you’ll be all over that (whatever it is) in a couple of seconds.
Now imagine that there’s a girl you’re into. Really, really into. You see her every day. You have ZERO other girls in your life. None you’re talking to. Not online or off.
And you see this interest of yours a couple times a week.
Your instincts are screaming at you to tell her how you feel. Your instincts tell her that if you simply confess you’re love to her, everything will be fine.
Only you know it won’t. Either from experience or logic, you KNOW that telling her is likely the WORST thing you can do. You know objectively that the best course of action is to play it cool, and slowly build attraction. Never talk about fight club.
But there you are, the very next day, telling her how much you love her.
Do you see a connection between the food in the fridge and the girl of your dreams?
Your instincts will often times get you into deep trouble. Following them blindly will usually give you the opposite of what you want. Eating that tub of ice cream (or whatever) in the fridge won’t help you lose weight any more than confessing your love will help you get the girl.
So, what do you? Don’t get into that situation. Instead of ONLY having ice cream in the fridge, stock with healthy food that you can eat to keep your mind off the ice cream.
Instead of ONLY talking to girls you’re in love with make it a habit to cultivate your own private “harem.”
No, not like that. But a group of cute girls that you talk to on a regular basis. Girls who work at Starbucks, you’re local restaurant, the local library, friends at work, anywhere.
So when you feel the “urge” to tell THE ONE that you are in love with her, you can kill that urge by going down to Starbucks and flirting with the waitress.
And when you do that, be sure to use these language patterns which will jack up interest and attraction. So the girls in your “harem” will ALWAYS be glad to see you.