When it comes to getting a girl interested in you, words are much, much less important than guys realize.
I never realized this until I did extensive traveling in foreign countries where I didn’t speak the language.
I was absolutely amazed at how easy it was to communicate just using facial expressions, and gestures.
This was shown to me clearly when I spent about twenty minutes negotiating the price of some knick knack with a deaf-mute street vendor. Even though neither of us spoke, I recall that “conversation” now as being lively, covering a wide range of emotions, filled with humor and feigned sadness, much more so than many conversations with native English speakers.
So if you’re hung up on what to say, or how to say it, don’t worry so much.
As they say, inner game trumps outer game every single time. Your might be able to get in the door with some well rehearsed outer game, but that usually crumbles pretty quickly.
Solid inner game, on the other hand, won’t just get you in the door, but it will get you in her bed, with her begging you to never leave.
How do you practice inner game? It’s all about maintaining a steady state.
Guys that are unattractive to girls, on a deep level, have very environment dependent states. They’ll feel really comfortable one minute, when they’re surrounded by their buddies, but as soon as an obvious alpha or HB 10 shows up, their state suddenly morphs.
A guy with a steady state that isn’t dependent on the environment is much, much more attractive.
A guy that feels the same level of comfort, relaxation, self confidence, etc., while talking to an old lady, and HB 10 or some crazed homeless person.
How do you get to this level? The same way you developed all your other skills.
How do you practice? Choose a state. Perhaps one of relaxed interested and curiosity. Hold that state as you move through as many different environments as possible.
Walk down the street with that state. Stop and hold eye contact with a girl and hold that state. Go into a dangerous part of town and hold that state. Sit by yourself in your room and hold that state. Go out with your boys to a loud club filled with girls dressed like hookers and hold that state.
Then do all the above, again, with a different state.
The goal is for you to develop the skill to choose, and hold, whatever state you want, regardless of where you are and what you’re doing.