Way back in high school, I dabbled a bit in “punk.”
I went to see a few bands.
I started listening to some punk records.
Really loudly in my room to piss off my parents.
But one opening line of a Sex Pistols song stuck with me.
It was kind of punk, but it was also very, very good life advice.
But only if you understand it within the context of being a self-responsible adult.
The line was referencing the fact that the Sex Pistols were covering a song by The Who (Substitute), but didn’t get proper legal permission.
“You don’t need permission for anything.”
As a young kid who was rebelling very much like the famous Marlon Brando character from “The Wild One,” that was the perfect line.
The famous line, of course:
“What are you rebelling against?”
“Whatta you got?”
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But seeking permission is a very, “childhood” model of the world.
Permission presupposes there is a group who hold authority OVER the permission seeker.
Sure, if these are legal things, and you want to use something that is somebody else’s property, you should ask for permission.
But so long as you ACCEPT the outcome, and you’re not breaking any laws, the Sex Pistols line is perfect.
Most guys “feel” the need for permission before talking to somebody.
Like they see a girl across the room they’d like to get to know.
But a little voice pops up in their head:
“If you talk to her, she might get angry.”
This is EXACTLY what we mean when we say somebody is “out of our league.”
A kind of self-imposed caste system where we lowly riff-raff are ONLY allowed to mingle with “our own kind.”
At the same time, we LOVE this kind of “underdog story.”
Of the lowly serf or slave who leaves, or is kicked out, and comes back to destroy the evil bastards up in the higher echelon society.
We LOVE movies like Spartacus.
Slaves who rebel against their overlords.
But in those movies, those slaves are REAL SLAVES.
The elites are actually powerful nobles who can order the murder of anybody on a whim.
Today, it’s NOT like that.
The ideas of “leagues” is something we MAKE UP.
We all have voices in our brains.
Voices left over from childhood.
Telling us what we’re allowed to do.
Who we’re allowed to talk to.
What’s OK and not OK.
Maybe consider switching those voices, from DECADES ago, with the snide voice of Johnny Rotten from the Sex Pistols.
You don’t need permission for anything.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.