Most of us make a crucial mistake when trying to get a girl to like us.
It usually happens quickly, automatically, and unconsciously.
We see a girl, and are suddenly attracted to her. Then we quickly imagine the best case scenario, and at the same time, the worst case scenario.
If we’re lucky, the best case motivates us more than the worst case, and we make the approach.
But before we even talk to her, we’ve already shot ourselves in the foot.
Because our natural inclination is to increase the odds of the best case scenario, while avoiding the worst case.
This is natural, and happens every time we interact with reality, pick up or not.
Only when we go over to talk to that girl, most of the time, we’ve already decided that she has passed all of our tests.
This is natural, and for the longest time in human history, physical attraction was all a guy needed.
But that was during a time when single, cute girls were few and far between.
Any time we saw a cute girl in that situation, it was literally do or die. So our caveman brains evolved a mindset that says we absolutely must be successful with every girl we see.
Girls, on other hand, have ALWAYS been able to pick and choose from amongst guys.
Which means if we go over there, using our caveman programming, and she is sitting there, using her cave girl programming, she’s got the upper hand.
Because she is looking at us through a “I wonder if he qualifies” frame, while we are looking at her through a “I hope I qualify” frame.
Who do you think is going to have the upper hand?
Sure, if you’re rich, famous, and handsome, you’ll do well. But most of us ain’t rich, handsome or famous.
So what do we do?
We replace our automatic caveman thinking with some conscious, rational thinking.
Instead of automatically thinking, “I hope I qualify,” we need to force our brains to think “I wonder if she qualifies.”
That way, instead of going over there to “win approval,” think of yourself as going on a fact-finding mission, to make sure she doesn’t have any red flags or skeletons in the closet.
Make her qualify to you, instead of the other way around.
An easy way to do that is with the language patterns of covert hypnosis.
Much more than a set of memorized language patterns, these are specific skills and tools that will allow you to not only dig deep beneath her surface, to find out exactly what makes her tick, but to use your language to create a wonderful frame, where she is literally begging to enter your world.
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