Game theory is an interesting field of mathematics.
The most famous game theory guy is John Nash.
The guy Russell Crowe played in the movie, “A Beautiful Mind.”
Nash is famous for something called the “Nash Equilibrium.”
Basically it means that both players make thier choice and neither one would benefit from deviating from their original choice.
It’s what the dude got a Nobel prize for.
Turns out that game theory can be applied in plenty of places.
Like when to have sales, how long to have sales, which kinds of things to discount.
Even when studying the preferred direction people go in when taking a free kick in soccer.
See It Everywhere
Game theory is pretty natural.
But it’s often applied in the wrong situations.
It’s called “game” theory because both people want it win.
And generally speaking, winners require losers.
But often, we assume there are going to be winners and losers when there really isn’t.
And like most things in life, things tend to play out based on our assumptions.
If you see a person walking up, and you ASSUME he’s going to be mean, and you act accordingly, that assumption will MAKE them behave meanly.
On the other hand, if you see somebody, you want to talk to them, and you ASSUME (not hope or wish) they’ll be friendly, that will change your behavior.
Which will increase the likelihood they will actually be friendly.
Most people interact socially from a “game theory” standpoint.
High levels of social skills are even referred to as having “game.”
When you game somebody, you get them to do what you want.
But just that word “game” implies winners and losers.
That you BENEFIT at their expense.
Even one of the most famous game theory examples is called “battle of the sexes.”
Not A Fight
Even though this is referred to as a “battle” it’s really not.
Both halves of a happy couple want the same thing.
Their ultimate goal is to show up at the same place and enjoy a good time together.
But they can’t communicate.
So “they” have to “use” game theory to predict the other’s behavior and act accordingly.
The choices involve what to wear, and where to go.
One places requires casual clothing, one place requires nice clothing.
If they go to the wrong place first, they’ll go to the right place but with the wrong clothing.
But ultimately, they want to be at the same place.
So the term “battle” is not really accurate.
This is how we tend to think in social situations.
Whenever you approach somebody, we tend to think in terms of “win-lose,” or “game,” or “frame battles.”
But what happens when you ditch that thinking?
And realize that EVERYBODY enjoys having friendly conversations with friendly people?
What will this do to your social confidence?
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.