One common problem many people have is what to say.
Job interviews, first dates, or even just sitting next to an interesting person.
Here’s a metaphorical way to describe this common question of “what to say.”
There is you, and there is them.
You feel a desire to get to know them.
And for them to get to know you.
Either you specifically want to make a good impression, like in a job interview.
Or you have a kind of subconscious urge to make a good impression, for a hopefully romantic kind of conversation.
Or just a natural human urge to have a friendly conversation with a friendly person.
Maybe they’re reading a book by an author you like.
Maybe they’re wearing a shirt showing an obscure band you like.
But then this deep and nearly subconscious urge bubbles up into your consciousness.
The desire is there, but with it comes a bit of anxiety.
Once this happens, you’re kind of trapped.
You want to say something, anything, that will create that friendly conversational pleasure.
But you don’t want to say the wrong thing.
As soon as that thought pops into your brain, it gets harder and harder.
One way to describe a natural conversation that doesn’t involve ANY of this self-doubt is a VIBE.
Like to “vibe” with somebody.
Vibe, of course, is based on the word “vibration.”
Which means you and they each have your own frequency.
Nervous energy is metaphorically of a higher frequency.
Or maybe not metaphorically.
Lay Off The Coffee
Nervous energy is associated with higher brainwaves.
High beta, the kind nervous coffee buzz.
But much more relaxed energy is lower, down in the alpha range.
Calm, half thinking, half daydreaming.
The kind of lazy, accepting smile that makes conversations enjoyable.
Think of this from a musical perspective.
You show up for band tryouts.
Let’s say you play the bass.
You should up and the drummer and the guitar player are playing chaotically and incoherently, as fast as they can.
You paying close attention, try to find a jumping point, but you just can’t.
On the other hand, consider you show up and they have a very nice, very steady beat.
Very EASY to jump in and “vibe.”
Once you start to drift up into nervous coffee buzz beta brainwaves, it’s very difficult to “vibe.”
On the other hand, if you are always jamming to a slow, steady, rhythmic beat, it’s easy to vibe with almost anybody.
Consider that we all tend to have our own, quiet “brainwave vibing” energy.
And the LOWER yours, the steadier yours is, the easier you can vibe with ANYBODY.
And just like the cool bass player, you will support plenty of different kinds of music.
Mind Persuasion has plenty of books and courses to teach you how to speak hypnotically and persuasively.