Everybody’s got voices in their heads, not just crazy people.
For most of us, those voices are just below our conscious awareness. We don’t really “hear” them, like on TV or the movies.
But they’re there. They come across as “feelings” especially feelings of anxiety and nervousness.
See, people are born explorers and risk takers.
Only through growing up, do we learn that some things are “scary” and we need to “be careful.”
A lot of times, the reasons for these fears are really imaginary, only their not in our heads, their in the heads of our parents or other adults.
Think about this. You’re a parent, you’ve got an eight year old kid. He’s going out to play. The kid has no fears at all. The parent, on the other hand, has all kinds of imaginary fears of what might happen to his or her little angle.
Cars, kidnappers, drug dealers in ice cream trucks, child pornographers giving out candy, the list goes on and on.
So what does the parent say? Remember, the parent is trying to reduce their own fear.
They say something like this:
“Be careful! There are bad men out there!”
“Watch out, some drivers like running over little kids!”
“Don’t talk to strangers, they’ll take you away and hurt you!”
The point of this is to scare the kid so much, the parent can see it, and thereby reduce his or her own fear.
Of course, here you are, years later, and those voices are still there.
The situation is the same, especially when going somewhere where there’s a lot of cute girls.
That little, adventurous kid in you wants to go exploring. Make new friends, have fun, adult style.
But you’ve been conditioned to feel fear at the same time.
How do you get rid of those voices?
Put in some new ones!
Force yourself to hear a new voice, a better voice, a more supportive voice.
Force yourself to listen to it when you’re out in the field.
With enough practice, it will drown out that old voice, and become automatic.
Then you’ll be able to approach with abandon, number closing every girl in the place.