How To Create Your Own World
With reason, the world around you is very much under your control. In this post, you will learn some very simple techniques that will allow you to create your own ideal universe. Now, it’s important to understand that this has nothing to do with metaphysical law of attraction mumbo jumbo. You won’t be able to create a universe that is against the laws of physics. But you will be surprised just how much flexibility the world around you really has.
Some people honestly believe the world is filled with demons. That behind every glare hides an ancient force of unimaginable evil. For these people, the world is a terrifying place they avoid at all costs. Nearly two million people have agoraphobia, meaning they are terrified to step outside. If you go outside on a regular basis without any issue, then the difference between how you view the world and how they view the world is vast. Yet you both live in the same one.
Potential For Increase
Let’s imagine that you view the world as neutral, and the poor souls with agoraphobia view the world as having a fear factor of 100 (compared to your zero). Suppose that you could crank the knob in the other direction, making it go from zero to a positive factor of 100? This seems reasonable. For somebody with a fear of leaving their house, to go outside and feel normal would be fantastic. Going from a fear factor of 100 to zero would be the best thing that could ever happen to them. What would it be like for you if you could take the setting from zero, to a hundred on any positive scale?
How Is This Possible?
Humans cannot perceive very much of what is around us. You may have heard of the red car syndrome. You buy a red car (or maybe read a blog post about the red car syndrome) and suddenly see red cars everywhere. They were all there before, you just didn’t see them. If you are a newly pregnant female (or want to be), you will wonder why you didn’t see all the pregnant females before.
Human Biases Are Legion
On the opposite side of the spectrum (of seeing things once we are focused on them) is not seeing things that violate our world view. Cognitive dissonance, normalcy bias, confirmation bias, and the kajillion of other biases that live in our brains are really trying to help us. They are very much like filters that help us operate. Our brains are very expensive organs, in terms of calorie use per weight. They like to operate on auto-pilot whenever possible.
Normal Human Thinking
Most of us are perfectly happy with our biases. They help us get through the day without having to think very much. We do the same things, think the same thoughts, and interact with the same people, unless something unexpected happens and forces us out of our routine.
Believe It Then See It Model
This is a nifty saying from many self development programs, that you’ll see it when you believe it. Meaning that first you have to tune your mind to see what is already there. You’ll believe in the existence of red cars once you start looking for red cars.
Angry Waitress Experiment
An experiment was done at a diner. The waitress would put plates down harder than she normally did. Once the diners left the restaurant, they were asked why she put the plates down so hard. Some people assumed she was having a bad day and gave her a bigger tip than normal. Others took it personally and assumed she was being mean to them on purpose, and left a smaller tip than normal. The real reason, of course, was that it was an experiment. Nobody “guessed” the right answer.
How Many Incidents Per Day?
When you stop and consider all the vague interactions you have with people every day, it’s easy to see how much room there is for assumptions. If you are in a bad mood, you’ll assume that all the people who don’t smile at you are angry. If you are in a good mood, you’ll assume that all the people who didn’t smile at you are busy or preoccupied. The mood we are in will have a large impact on the assumptions we make about others.
Most People Are Effects Of The World
Most people go through their day, and to a large extent, feel as if they are an effect, and the world is a cause. Few people can keep a good mood (without purposely trying) when it’s raining, the traffic is clogged up, or they get constantly yelled at.
Self Sustaining Cycles
If you start off in a bad mood, you will tend to find things that reinforce this bad mood, which will put you in a worse mood. If you start off in a good mood, you’ll tend to find things that reinforce this good mood, which can put you in a better mood.
Few People Study The Meaning Of Things
Every single event can have many different meanings. But few people ever stop and consider if the default meaning is supportive or restrictive. Most of us, when we hit a bunch of red lights in a row, assume it means something bad is about to happen. If we smile at the cute girl at Starbucks and she smiles back, we assume that is a good thing. Few people assume she is inwardly giggling because we have a huge piece of broccoli stuck in our teeth.
How To Build Your Own Universe
Now we’ve covered the built in flexibility we see on a daily basis, it’s time to take control. This can be a playful experiment you do just to have fun, or this can slowly transform your life completely. It all depends on how willing you are to play along. The truth is that the more willing you are to consciously decide what the world is, (the world is friendly, the world is glad to see me, etc.) the more evidence you will find. We will go beyond empowering statements and learn a very simple, step by step system to slowly build your own world to your exact specifications.
Step One – Decide What Kind Of World You Want To Live In
Remember, this has to obey the laws of physics, and other things like the current society you live in. For example, if you wanted to create a world where everything was free, you’ll end in jail. So make sure you give some thought to your own society. Don’t break any laws of physics, and don’t break any legal laws. So, what kind of world do you want? Consider some of these sentence stems:
In my world, people are…
In my world, people think I’m…
In my world, it’s easy to…
In my world, it’s easy for me to…
Write Down The Answers
Jot down some answers off the top of your head. The final answer should be something that could be easy to prove, should you decide to do so. Since this is potentially a life changing, ongoing project, you might consider starting with something easy. Consider the following suggestions.
In my world, people are easy to talk to.
In my world, people think I’m friendly.
In my world, people think I’m interesting.
In my world, it’s easy for me to make friends.
In my world, it’s easy for me to make people laugh.
It’s a good idea to start with a world that is only slightly better than the world you live in now. If you have trouble talking to strangers, for example, consider creating a world where people are easy to talk to. Once you’ve got your own ideal world defined, we’ll move on to the next step.
In My World, People Are Easy To Talk To
This is what we’ll work on. Understand this will take time. It won’t be a quick magic trick. But the end result will be that you really believe (and more importantly act) that in your world, people are really easy to talk to. Not just some people, but most people. And once you take on idea and build it into your world so that you believe it on a deep level, you can do this with any idea.
What The Thinker Thinks The Prover Proves
This is a nifty statement, but we are going to take it much further. You are going to find evidence of your world in the world, thereby proving it as true. We can find evidence in many places. In the day to day activities and in any of the experiences in your past. The easiest way is by digging through your past history.
Step Two – Slowly Rewrite Your History
To a large extent, how we feel about the world around us is based on our own personal history. Luckily, your history is very much under your control. Most of us have terrible memories, especially of unexpected events. Even when try and remember specific information (e.g. for a test) we have a hard time.
Start off as far back as you can remember. Find any event where the actual event supports what you are intending to prove. Namely, any situation where you talked to people, and it was easy. Since nearly everything is easy after the fact, you can find any event where you talked to any other human.
Rewrite The Event To Support Your New World
Rewrite the event. Keep the actual events the same, but give them the meaning that supports your new world, namely that talking to people is easy (for this example). Write a few sentences, re-remember the event, and physically write out the sentence:
In My World, Talking To People Is Easy
One Or More Events Per Day
Write at least one event from your past, but more if you want. Just be sure to be consistent. Avoid the common tendency to want to hurry up, or do as much as you can. This will tend to lead to burnout, and will have the opposite effect. The more time you spend doing this, the more impact it will have. Give yourself plenty of time, at least a few weeks. The rewards you will reap will be enormous. Once you re-create this once, doing it again will be easy, and can be done for as long as you want.
Step Three – Look For Spontaneous Evidence In Daily Life
Once you’ve got enough evidence from your childhood (or more recent history) begin to scan the events of the day. Look for any situations where you talked to people. Write them out as they happened, and use them as evidence to support your new world. Now you’re finding evidence from your past, and daily evidence that supports your new custom-built universe.
Step Four – Create Evidence
Any time you think to purposely create evidence to support your new custom-built universe, do so. Think about it and then ask somebody for the time. Think about it and then say, “Hi” to a stranger. Think about it and say, “Thank you” to the girl at Starbucks. The more evidence you create, the better.
Step Five – Purposely Recall Evidence
Once you’ve got plenty of evidence from plenty of places, begin purposely recalling them in certain situations. Any time you purposely want to feel comfortable talking to people,spend a few moments recalling the recent pieces of evidence you’ve recorded. If you can, quietly say to yourself, “This is my world. And in my world, talking to people is easy.”
Not A Magic Trick
Don’t treat this like a trick, you’ll have to purposely call to mind and build up the feeling of ease when recalling all the previous pieces of evidence. Treat this like a muscle, your ability to recall feelings of ease when thinking of talking to people. The more you do it, the stronger it will get.
Create A Gesture
One way to solidify this feeling is to create a personal anchor to associate with the belief that in your world, talking to people is easy. Be sure to create an anchor that is only associated with this feeling. You can set this every time you journal an event, or later recall an event.
Get Ahead Of Your Fears
If we leave it to our brains to decide what to do, they will revert to an ancient, “better safe than sorry” programming. For example, if you’d like to talk to somebody but purposely don’t think any supportive thoughts, your mind will automatically conjure up negative reasons NOT to talk to them. The best approach is to proactively call to mind any recent experiences you have that prove what you want to believe. Don’t give your monkey brain any time to come up with any lame excuses!
Go As Slow As Possible
It’s much better to go slower than you think you can. The slower and more consistently you do the journaling process (before actually trying any new behaviors) the more solid of a foundation you will build. If you want, you can ONLY do the journaling on your past, rewriting events one day at a time. Eventually, you will reach a tipping point when you just talk to people as a matter of course.
The New Normal
You’ll know this is working when you find yourself doing things that you didn’t use to do, but they feel totally normal. This is the goal. Not to push yourself outside of your comfort zone, but to slowly expand your comfort zone from the inside out. This way, you’ll never have to do anything that isn’t totally comfortable. Taking your time, you’ll just slowly make more things feel like they’ve always been inside your comfort zone.
Be Patient With Yourself
This is a slow process. But it is a very safe and comfortable process. Stick with until you actually change how you feel about your world. Because once you do, you will be able to create a custom made universe to your own specifications. What kind of universe would you like to live in? One where making money is easy? One where people would love to be friends with you? One where you love your job and your relationships? With enough patience, anything is possible.
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