When you approach a girl, do you feel as if you’re trying to “trick her?”
If you’re using any kind of patterns, are you afraid of getting caught?
This is a common fear, even though it’s a misconception.
Why is it a misconception? Because girls love sex. Granted, they’re not like guys, who can pretty much bone anything with a pulse and be satisfied.
Girls need to have certain emotions present, and have a reasonable expectation they’re not on the receiving end of a “pump and dump,” but once those criteria are satisfied, girls as well as guys will happily acknowledge that good sex is one of the best things about being alive.
So why all the fear?
Not to get too Freudian, but it all stems from childhood.
Between the ages of 0 and 2, we were all encouraged by pretty much every adult in the world (at least our world) to get up, walk and talk. Every time we did that, it was the greatest thing for everybody. Good feelings all around.
But then when once we became mobile, suddenly we weren’t such bundles of happy happy joy. We were little terrors, getting into stuff that we shouldn’t get into, running away when we shouldn’t, and screaming when we should be quiet.
Of course, nobody told us the rules suddenly changed. How the heck were we supposed to know?
All of a sudden, all those adults were screaming at us and getting angry at us for things that only a few days ago were causing such happy happy joy.
Naturally, you lay down this kind of mental programming in a two year old, it’s gonna cause some problems.
So later in life, when we see something that we really really want, part of us wants to go over there and talk to her, but another part of us has this deep fear that we’re going to “get in trouble” if we do.
The takeaway is that those fears aren’t coming from that girl. She’s not going to yell at her for trying to get into her pants.
She WANTS you to be the RIGHT GUY that will get into those panties, again and again and again.
It’s those leftover voices from childhood that are causing all that fear.
Next time you’re out in the field, just tell those old voices to shut the hell up.
You don’t need ’em anymore.
In fact, you never did.