According to some economists, or psychologists (or whatever kind of -ists study human behavior), there’s two kinds of people in the world.
Those that look out and imagine the world as it “should” be, and those who see the world as it really is.
Those who imagine the world as it “should” be look out, see that the world is not behaving correctly, and set out to blame somebody (anybody but themselves.)
Those that see the world the way it is, look at themselves, compare where they are to where they want to be, and then figure out how to “operate on the world” to get what they want.
Of course, these “operations” are all interactions with other people. Unless you’re in the Klondike and digging for gold all by your lonesome, getting what you want means interacting with others.
This usually means interacting with them in some way so they get what they want as well. (unless of course you’re a bank robber).
Of course, not everybody is purely one way or the other. Sometimes we see things as they are, and get busy working to get what we want.
Other times, we don’t like what we see, and instead of working to get what we want, it seems easier to find somebody to blame.
Now, consider this. You’re standing there. Up there in front of you, about twenty feet or so, is a big, huge, ten pound gold brick.
It doesn’t belong to anybody, so all you’ve got to do is go over and pick it up.
On the way to picking it up, somebody bumps into you and you fall into a big mud puddle.
Luckily, you’re still the only person that can see the gold.
What do you do? Spend your energy screaming and yelling at the guy who pushed you in the puddle? Clearly, you’re in the right, and he’s in the wrong. So does it make sense to stand there yelling at him?
Or would you rather just get up and keep moving toward that gold brick?
After all, blaming people may feel good. It may get you some sympathy. It may get the whole world to agree with you that it’s not your fault that you couldn’t get what you wanted.
But you still ain’t got it.
If you want to get what you want, focus on what you want. Not why you don’t have it yet. Ignore the haters, the blamers and those who try and “out-victim” each other.
Keep your eyes on the prize, and keep moving forward.
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