Most girls can sniff out desperation from a mile away.
Meaning if you haven’t got any action in a while, and you make a move on her, she’s going to know.
If you’ve ever been in a happy relationship with a woman, you know that this is the time that all those girls out there decide to start hitting on you.
But when you don’t have anybody, they avoid you like the plague.
Why is this?
This is indeed one of the great paradoxes of life. When you’re happily with somebody, your self confidence and self esteem is at an all time high. This comes across in your body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, and even the speed of your eyeballs as you scan a room.
On the other hand, if you’re as horny as recently released convict, your body language, facial expressions, and quickly darting eyes towards anything remotely female looking give out huge danger signs to all the girls within shouting distance.
How can you get the confidence without the girl, so you can get the girl?
There’s a couple ways. One is to simply find some girl that’s as desperate as you. Sure, she won’t be the hottest thing around, but she’ll certainly take the edge off. You don’t necessarily have to sleep with her, just get her in your book, talk to her a couple times a week and maybe hang out.
Another thing you can do is frequent some neighborhood restaurants, shops, and places where attractive girls work. Just be friendly, and go there enough so that you become a “regular” and they recognize you by sight.
This way, you won’t be nearly so desperate for female attention and companionship. So when a potential girl appears on your radar, you won’t blow her out with your desperation.
Another thing about making it a habit to hang out and talk to attractive girls on a regular basis (that you have ZERO intention of ever dating) is that these girls are PERFECT to practice various language patterns on in a playful, detached manner.
If you get caught, or if she laughs or whatever, it’s no big deal, since she’s just a girl you chat with on a semi-regular basis.
What patterns should you practice?
These are a good start: