Practice Makes Better To get better at shooting free throws, you need to practice throwing free throws. This means you are slowly building up a ton of success data, connecting the behavior that created the success to the good feeling. You are also building up tons of failure data, to connect negative feelings […]
Why Be Yourself Is Excellent Advice
Be Yourself A very common piece of advice when wanting to make friends or to create romantic relationships is to be yourself. From a superficial level, this seems to make logical sense. If you can be yourself, you’ll eventually meet people who like the real you. At the same time, this advice […]
Post Hypnotic Destruction
Unconscious Competence No matter what you are learning, whether it be a skill or a subject or a piece of information, if you practice this enough it will get down to the level of unconscious competence. Sometimes we say learn something by heart. Sometimes we say learn something until it is second nature, but […]
Real Magic
Summer School I have a friend who volunteers at a local community center. She asked me if I would help her teach some kids summer school. Some magic tricks during summer school. It took me about 10 minutes of research to realize that if I tried to teach these kids any kind of sleight-of-hand […]
Milton Model
Most Powerful Language Patterns Ever Created The Milton Model is a collection of very powerful language patterns and techniques. There are several dozen individual patterns, as well as larger strategies in which they are organized. They were invented by Dr. Milton Erickson, a physician and a hypnotist. He developed and used them as part of […]
How To Kill Social Anxiety
Everybody’s Got It There are many truths about humans and human nature. Here are two: All people have social anxiety. All people would like to have less social anxiety. Consider this a given. Many people would like to go out and meet people, but they say, “Yeah, but I have social anxiety!” Unfortunately, some people […]
How To Start And Maintain A Conversation With Anybody
Why Social Anxiety Exists Social skills are coveted by many, but they are also the most difficult to practice. This is the problem that keeps many of us from actively improving our social skills. Most of us don’t improve our skills to begin with, since practicing is pretty boring. Many people would love to play […]
Talisman
How To Create A Magic Talisman It’s common in many movies for the hero to have some type of magic object that helps him or her kill the bad guy. Harry Potter had his wand, Luke and all the other Jedi’s have their light saber, Lancelot had the sword from the stone. In this post […]
Guru Trap
(To read about the book, The Guru Trap, please click here.) How To Avoid Being Led Astray People love following gurus. The word itself is a religious term meaning “teacher” or “priest.” But it also means the guy people follow in self-development or financial circles. It’s one thing to learn some useful information from […]
Hallucination
The Human Unique Selling Proposition What is our best feature, as humans? Many people like to talk about this, since we are pretty different from all the other animals. Some don’t even like to accept that we are animals, imagining that we are some special beings above the rest. Chimp DNA But there seems […]