Once You See Them https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Apr01_Post.mp4 Many things are invisible. But once you calibrate your mind to see them, you’ll see them everywhere. Their not really invisible, but intangible. A description of a process. A metaphor. One such metaphor is the reinforcing cycle, or loop. For example, think of something […]
Practice Being Your Best Self
Critical Skill Creation https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Mar09_Post.mp4 There is a lot of mixed feeling associated with any kind of “self help.” And nearly all of these are entirely justified. Most of the things people want involve other people. Making more money, creating better relationships. And since these are also the things that TERRIFY us […]
Unconscious Magic Performance
Advanced Studies Once there was a dance teacher. She didn’t teach dance movements. Or dance techniques. In fact, she requires her students to be dancers. To be advanced dancers with plenty of experience. Dancing before large crowds. Large Entry Requirements https://loopvids.s3.amazonaws.com/Oct18Loop.mp4 The things she would teach them. Would […]
Curving History
Practice Makes Better To get better at shooting free throws, you need to practice throwing free throws. This means you are slowly building up a ton of success data, connecting the behavior that created the success to the good feeling. You are also building up tons of failure data, to connect negative feelings […]
Why Be Yourself Is Excellent Advice
Be Yourself A very common piece of advice when wanting to make friends or to create romantic relationships is to be yourself. From a superficial level, this seems to make logical sense. If you can be yourself, you’ll eventually meet people who like the real you. At the same time, this advice […]
Post Hypnotic Destruction
Unconscious Competence No matter what you are learning, whether it be a skill or a subject or a piece of information, if you practice this enough it will get down to the level of unconscious competence. Sometimes we say learn something by heart. Sometimes we say learn something until it is second nature, but […]
Real Magic
Summer School I have a friend who volunteers at a local community center. She asked me if I would help her teach some kids summer school. Some magic tricks during summer school. It took me about 10 minutes of research to realize that if I tried to teach these kids any kind of sleight-of-hand […]
Milton Model
Most Powerful Language Patterns Ever Created The Milton Model is a collection of very powerful language patterns and techniques. There are several dozen individual patterns, as well as larger strategies in which they are organized. They were invented by Dr. Milton Erickson, a physician and a hypnotist. He developed and used them as part of […]
How To Kill Social Anxiety
Everybody’s Got It There are many truths about humans and human nature. Here are two: All people have social anxiety. All people would like to have less social anxiety. Consider this a given. Many people would like to go out and meet people, but they say, “Yeah, but I have social anxiety!” Unfortunately, some people […]
How To Start And Maintain A Conversation With Anybody
Why Social Anxiety Exists Social skills are coveted by many, but they are also the most difficult to practice. This is the problem that keeps many of us from actively improving our social skills. Most of us don’t improve our skills to begin with, since practicing is pretty boring. Many people would love to play […]