Most people have heard that communication is only 7% verbal, but that only tells part of the story.
Sure, we all know that facial expressions, body language, tone of voice all have tons of valuable information, and if you’ve ever watched a friend go down in flames, these things are clear.
Even watching a failed pick up from across the room, without even listening to the words that are being spoken can be fairly obvious to those clued into what to look for.
Closed body language, minimal eye contact, pulling back instead of leaning in.
On the other hand, you can sit in a cafe in any foreign country and quickly tell who’s into who without knowing a word of what’s being said.
But what about that 7%? Those words that make the difference? To be sure, they aren’t always even necessary. I know plenty of folks who’ve had long and happy relationships with girls that barely spoke English.
Body language can go a long ways.
But if you’re not careful, that 93% can take you there, but the wrong collection of words in the last 7% can blow you out.
You can be flirting with a girl across the room, clearly into each other, and then shoot yourself in the foot when you walk over there and say the wrong thing, or not pay attention to what she’s saying in the right way.
Because within that tiny 7% is a HUGE amount of information, an amount that goes right over most guys’ heads.
But with a relaxed, confident state, and the right set of verbal tools, you can easily catapult yourself miles ahead of your competition.
The confidence is up to you, but you can learn the verbal tools here: