Everybody would LOVE to have some kind of secret “patterns” to magically use to persuade people.
To be sure, there’s no shortage of alleged gurus selling “black market” techniques and “banned hypnosis” or whatever other marketing gimmick they’ve named it.
In a sense, thought, any kind of persuasive language is like martial arts. Not that persuading is like fighting, in fact, it’s quite the opposite.
When we persuade people, we’re hoping to create win-win relationships, so EVERYBODY feels better off, not like winners or losers in smackdowns.
But the metaphor is appropriate in that you NEVER know how your opponent is going to respond to your moves.
So the best fighters are always the most flexible, and have the most versatile collection of skills to draw from.
If you’re a football team, and all you know how to do is run up the middle, you won’t get very far against an opponent with a huge line and a mad passing game.
So when learning persuasive language to create win-win relationships, forget about any kind of “magic formula,” and instead, just work on building up your overall skills.
Kind of like the “wax on, wax off” philosophy of the Karate Kid, by drilling these patterns deeply into your brain, over and over, they’ll flow off your tongue like water.
So no matter what your conversational partner says, you’ll be able to wrap their desires with yours so that your intention sounds like the greatest thing since sliced bread.
The BEST way to drill these patterns into your brain is just to get into the habit of writing them out, long hand, for a few minutes every single day.
Either first thing in the morning, or for a few minutes before sleep, and pretty soon you’ll be a black belt verbal ninja, giving out good feelings to everybody you meet.
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