There’s two kinds of seduction or dating techniques, for two different scenarios.
One is for women in general, and one is for any particular woman.
One is pretty systematic, and will get you consistent results so long as you exhibit consistent behavior.
If you learn to talk to girls the right way, generate a minimum level of self confidence, release any feelings of neediness or dependency on the outcome, and talk to enough girls, you WILL meet several girls that are into you, from which you can choose whomever you want, based on YOUR criteria.
The other method, the one woman method, is a little bit different. It depends on who the girl is, what she’s interested in, your experience with her, and whether or not you’ve “forced her hand.”
Most guys make the absolute CRUCIAL mistake of FORCING the question into her conscious mind of whether or not she’s attracted to you.
I know it’s horrible feeling to be around a girl all the time, and wonder how she feels. It’s nearly impossible to resist the temptation to “spill your guts,” hoping that she’ll reciprocate.
But it’s HUGE gamble. If she doesn’t feel the same way, in most cases it’s GAME OVER.
You’ve told her you like her, she’s told you (either directly or indirectly) that she doesn’t like you. Once that happens, there’s not much you can do.
What most guys try and do is convince her CONSCIOUSLY to like him. As if he calls her enough, or buys her flowers, or hangs around, she’ll “decide” to start liking him.
But as you well know, ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE. It is an unconscious response to stimuli.
You can’t convince her logically to “like you” any more than you can convince somebody logically to suddenly love the taste of broccoli.
The ONLY HOPE of getting a girl to like, AFTER you’ve spilled your guts and she’s said “no,” is to do two things.
One is to pace her. Agree that she doesn’t like you. Tell her thank you for being kind, and openly ACCEPT HER RESPONSE.
Don’t buy her flowers, or call her, or try to rekindle any old feelings. You’ve got to ACT, on the surface, as if you totally agree that you shouldn’t be together, and you are getting on with your life.
THIS IS YOUR ONLY CHANCE.
You’ve got STOP FOCUSING ON HER, start improving yourself, increase your skills, get some solid goals, and start creating a masterpiece of your life.
All the while, still being FRIENDS with her. Not the “girlfriend type,” where you allow her to cry on her shoulder.
But you TREAT HER like one of your buddies. Swear around her. Talk about your dates with other women around her. Openly flirt with girls in front of her.
All the while getting on with your life.
This is indeed a LONG CON, one that most guys can never pull off. You’ve got to give her time, to come up with the idea ON HER OWN, that you are the “one that got away.”
And she’s got to come after you, based on her own reasons.
The real kicker? When she does, you will likely already have lost interest.
Forget romance, be your friend, and GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE.
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