Here’s a trick that when done right, will have some pretty magical effects.
One of the things that holds a lot of us back from getting the girls and relationships we want is fear.
Duh.
Well, maybe not so duh. A lot of guys convince themselves that they’re not really afraid, they just don’t know what to say, or they weren’t in the right “state,” or their game wasn’t “on.”
I’m sure you know that cognitive dissonance something that ALL of us use to protect our ego.
In fact, many guys (and girls) will go to great lengths to avoid admitting, even to themselves, that fear stops then dead in their tracks.
But just admit it, and you’re halfway home.
Anyhow, here’s the trick.
Most guys look at a girl, and then imagine all the things they’d like to do her. I mean those sexual nasty things.
Then, about two nanoseconds later, the same guy is embarassed for having these thoughts.
Then about three nanoseconds later, he imagines what would happen if she could somehow read his mind and know what a pervert he was.
It’s like a one-two-three punch that pulls our brains in three directions at once, causing all kinds of anxiety.
Then we finally catch the girls eye, and she sees us, but only AFTER we’ve come up with this horrible scenario in our mind (largely unconscious).
She “senses” that we’re nervous, so she becomes nervous. All this happens quickly, and unconsciously.
Anyhow, here’s the trick.
See her, and imagine all those wonderful things you’d like to do with her, and simply enjoy them.
Don’t reject them, or worry about them, or think she’s going to somehow know what you’re thinking.
Just stop, and literally force your brain to stay with that first impression. Fully enjoy and appreciate that imagination. Don’t hide from.
While you’re appreciating that imagination, look at her and smile.
Allow that imagination and appreciation fully consume you as you smile at her.
This may take some practice, but when you get it right, it’s nothing short of jaw-dropping.
For both of you.
Learning to accept your own feelings and ideas without regret will certainly help.
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