You how when you get a great idea, but then you start to think about it, but then you start getting all kinds of fears and negative self talk swirling around your brain?
This is very common, and very natural. Unless you take action right away, you ARE going to have some internal fears and doubts.
Being able to act in spite of those fears and doubts is what makes you a consciously living adult, in charge of your future. However, it ain’t always easy, that’s for sure.
And those voices won’t ever go away, either. Think about what life would be like WITHOUT those automatic voices of fear and doubt.
You’d get some half brained idea, act on it impulsively, and end up in prison, or the hospital, or dead.
Obviously, those voices CAN be helpful if you look at them objectively.
Let’s say you see an attractive person from across the room. You’d like to go over and talk to them. But then that voice starts yammering away. Giving you all kinds of horrible pictures and imaginary feelings of rejection and public humiliation.
On the one extreme, you could allow those voices to control you, and stay right where you are without making a move.
On the other extreme, you could damn the torpedoes and go full speed ahead, walking straight at her with a glimmer in your eye like a hungry wolf.
Neither would really get you what you want.
But here’s an alternative to consider. Think of that voice as just a helpful reminder to stay on your toes. Don’t become its obedient slave, but don’t blow it off completely.
Allow your desire to push you forward, but also allow those voices to keep you from going too far, too fast.
That way, you’ll enjoy some steady forward progress, instead of oscillating between wall flowering and failing miserably.
Having a solid understanding of objection handling language patterns can help keep that voice at bay. It will give you the ability to “out frame” your own worst fears, while still remaining open for what can happen.