You know how on TV, there’s usually the typical story of a guy girl couple, that start out as “friends,” then one of the confesses to the other that “they have feelings” ?
What the heck does this mean?
I suppose it’s kind of like the way the Supreme Court defined pornography. You can’t define it, but you know it when you see it.
Obviously, when you say you’ve got “feelings” for her, or she says she’s got “feelings” for you, it means there’s some kind of romantic interest. Emotional and sexual feelings of desire, and usually a desire for exclusivity.
Meaning you (or she) has decided that you want them, you want them to want you, and you want them to want nobody else but you, and you promise to only want them.
And if that messed up sentence is any indication, these “feelings” get pretty confusing.
Because the word, “confusing,” implies some kind of logic.
Like I had a friend who’s wife mistakenly put in salt instead of sugar into some kind of desert.
It wasn’t confusing, it was horrible. Everybody knew what happened. Everybody knew what was wrong. Everybody knew what to do to fix the situation.
But when you or she expresses “feelings,” all logic and rational thought goes out the window.
Nobody knows what’s happening, or why, or what to do.
Of course, this absolutely sucks if these “feelings” are one way. Not reciprocated.
Which makes it risky (very risky) to express your feelings unless you’re pretty sure they are going to be reciprocated.
If they’re not, it’s pretty much the kiss of death.
Sadly, most guys do this backwards. They somehow think (or imagine, or hope) that simply be expressing their “feelings” that will be enough to CAUSE her to share the same “feelings.”
But if she’s not sure, or if she’s on the fence, this can usually have the opposite effect, pushing her away, and killing any chances.
Obviously, this can be the hardest thing in the world, feeling those feelings, being unsure if she’s feeling those feelings, and keeping them to yourself.
But if you have feelings, hold off expressing them as long as you can, until you’re absolutely positive, no question in your mind, that she’s going to reciprocate.
But if you want to significantly increase your chances, hit as many of her buttons as you can. Those unconscious buttons that we’ve all got.
Buttons that will create irresistible desire and attraction. So much that she’ll being the one confessing her feelings to you.
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