Before we get started, let’s cover one very important thing. When we’re talking about being able to “impress a girl,” we don’t mean showing her your resume, and getting her to consciously weight the pros and cons of dating you.
We’re talking about using language to create unconscious and emotional desire. Many guys make the mistake of thinking that a girl is going to verbalize any “green light.”
That will never happen, unless you’re paying her. In the real world, it’s the guys job to have enough sensory acuity to determine when she’s good to go, and then make a move.
Time and time again guys go on a date, fail to make a move, and then somehow blame the girl for not being “clear” with her signals. The bottom line is that girls are giving guys signals all the time, but most of us are just too clueless, too nervous, and too up in our heads to notice.
That being said, this technique will definitely impress her, meaning get her interested in you and focused solely on you. However, once she’s good to go, you’ve got to do something about it.
So, what is a “nested loop,” and will it work to get her undivided attention? The structure of loops are pretty simple. First, think of a story. Any story. It’s got a beginning, middle and end, right? Same with those stories you tell your buddies when you’re hanging out.
We don’t normally think of them that way, but when you think of that funny story that happened to you yesterday while you were washing your socks, it does have a intro, middle part, tension buildup, and tension resolution.
Just like Spiderman or Iron Man 3.
A series of loops, or nested loops, is when you start telling a story, and then right when you get to the climax, you switch and start telling another story.
This makes it almost impossible to NOT pay attention to a speaker who is good at this. Stand up comedians are exceptionally good at this.
But when you’re talking to a girl, you shouldn’t be telling jokes. You don’t want her to think you’re a clown.
Some of the stories you start (and not finish) should be about girl stuff. No, not makeup. Emotional things. Feelings of attachment and amazement. The time when you had your first crush in fourth grade.
How your buddy totally transformed from some alpha male hardass to a total romantic fool when he met his now wife.
Of course, you should mix in “regular” stories as well, about how you found some spare part for your car, or you discovered a new flavor of pasta sauce.
Just remember to open the loops, but never close them. The longer you do this, the more she’ll be drawn to you.
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