When you’re talking to girls, you obviously want to create some pretty good feelings.
You want them to look at you and think good thoughts, and you want them to hope that they’ll be able to look at you and otherwise be with you and think and feel good thoughts in the future.
If you can do this, you’re doing pretty good.
However, this isn’t the model that a lot of guys carry around with them. Instead of interacting with a woman, and creating unconscious feelings of attraction, guys walk up to girls and act like “attraction” is some kind of “thing” that she has, and if you say the right things, or do the right things, or “be” the right way, she’ll somehow consciously “decide” to “give” you some attraction.
Think of attraction like you would hunger. Both are instincts, both are programmed into us on a deep level, so that we feel them, we can’t help but act on them, even if it gets us into trouble.
But think about creating “hunger” in somebody the same way guys try and create “attraction.”
Would you walk up to somebody, and think you could logically persuade them to “feel” hungry?
Would you walk around with an entitlement attitude thinking that simply because you know how to cook, that girls SHOULD somehow automatically get hungry when you’re around?
Of course not. You’d take an indirect approach. You’d let them smell some food. You’d describe the food in rich detail. You’d talk about the ingredients.
And you’d wait. You’d wait for her to get the unconscious feeling of hunger. If you saw signs that she wasn’t getting hungry, you’d figure you’d try with somebody else.
If she was allergic to what you were cooking, or if she just ate, would you take it personally?
Would you get angry that her unconscious response wasn’t what you wished it would be?
That would be like a doctor getting angry at his patient when his knee didn’t kick “properly” when he hit it with that rubber hammer.
Think about this next time you’re talking to girls. Instead of trying to convince her logically to like you, try and build up that unconscious desire, like working up her appetite.
If you use these language patterns, which were designed SPECIFICALLY to speak to her unconscious, it will be a lot easier.