There’s a pretty powerful, and pretty widely used technique from covert hypnosis.
It’s part of the Milton Model, and has long ago been adopted by sales people and advanced pick up artists.
However, like all other “language patterns” it’s only useful when used within a wider context. If you walk up to a girl you’ve never met before, this or any other “magic pattern” won’t do you a bit of good.
Anyhow, this pattern is called the “double bind.” Basically it gives your target the illusion of choice, when both choices end up doing the same thing, which is what you want.
For example, sales people tend to use this when setting appointments:
“I’d like to come and talk to you about our product, which is better, Thursday night, or Wednesday afternoon?”
It sounds like they have a choice, but either one they choose is going to end up with you in their house selling them something.
Now, this is best used when calling up a girl for a first date, or “get together.”
It requires that you’ve developed some rapport, and when you got her number, she didn’t give it to you just to get rid of you.
Meaning that she’s got to be kind of expecting and hoping for your call.
The reason this works is because it removes any chance of shooting yourself in the foot with unexpected neediness.
Sure, you may have talked a good game to her the other night, but calling her on the phone and asking her for a date is another issue. If you come across as too needy, it might kill any attraction she has for you.
But if you ask her to go with you on a certain date (let’s have dinner next fri!), and she is legitimately busy, the uncomfortable on the spot decision making process may also make you look less than in control.
It also removes that weird, “lets hang out sometime,” where she’s not sure if you are going to choose a time to get together of if she is supposed to.
Bottom line, when you call to set up that all important meet, you’ve got to get in, set the date, and get out. You’ve got to be in control the whole time. The feeling of that first call will run around and around her mind between the time you hang up and the time you see her.
So, how do you use the double bind?
“Hey, it’s George. We met the other night. I really enjoyed talking to you, and I’d like to see you again. Which is better Thursday afternoon or Friday evening?”
Wait for her to answer, then set the time, and the place.
DON’T wait for her to give you any kind of validation or positive feedback.
DON’T tell her to call you to verify or call her to verify.
DON’T text her in between to verify.
Just show up, and expect her to show up.
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